It’s about the journey, not the destination!

Hola, Happy Baby. Friday, I’m back in Indiana. The Arizona weather has left. The Tree of Life is growing. So I wanted to share another paragraph from a new chapter that I just put together. I had an interesting experience a couple of nights ago, when I went to bed, I asked for a dream to get the new chapter. And what did you know? It this amazing unconscious mind gave me the chapter. It actually wrote it during the dream. So I’m trying to remember what was in the dream and write it. So the name of the chapter is it’s about the journey, not the destination. So often we focus on the destination, not realizing we grow and transform a lot during the journey and the so I’ll read you this paragraph. First, Joseph Campbell wrote about the hero’s journey and gave us a template for navigate navigating our dreams and our goals. He also explained the downside when we choose not to follow our soul’s yearnings, usually people who dream big and then follow it will encounter all kinds of trials, but if we know what to expect the discomfort, we can prepare our minds and bodies to overcome the temporary experiences we will encounter when we follow our vision. I know a young woman who is starting a business venture with very little experience for how to do it. She needs a loan, a huge build out a business plan and renters, just to name a few of the tasks ahead of her dream business, her self doubts and fears are very real every day because she has been prepared to deal with the stressors of doing this. She is feeling it fully as you she moves forward, I’ve told her that the journey will transform her deeply, even if the venture fails, it’s in the doing that we become different. To become different, we must be willing to leave our comfort zones and dive straight into the void. The Void is the unknown which we have never traversed before. It’s filled with risk, uncertainty, self doubt, fear, aloneness and all types of feelings. When we begin to create a new state of being, our bodies rebel and zap us like an electric dog collar. The war zone is neither pleasant nor peaceful. It is loud, filled with turbulence, and can be bloody. This is what the young woman is experiencing on her journey to create her dream business. This transformative process will be worth all the blood, sweat and tears she will release. Birth is a difficult process, but from my experience, it will be worth it. And we all know what being born is. You know, Leonard Orrin talks about her birth trauma with rebirthing work that I teach. Everybody thinks the baby’s born, Yay, it’s out, but that was a hell of a ride for that little baby, even though we may not remember our births, our body remembers everything. So for this young woman doing this work, and I’ve got a couple other friends that have created a school for young children, this started three years ago. It was a dream, because they didn’t want their kids to go to traditional schools. And guess what? This fall, they’re starting their first semester, when we get a goal or a dream from our soul. Do it? Yeah, you’re going to be tested. It’s going to be horrible at times. You’re going to have self doubt, fear, everything else that goes along with that. But if you don’t give in to what the body is zapping you with like the electric dog collar, you can pull it off. And I’ve done this many times on my journey with trying new things, like when I moved to Colorado, knowing one person, which most of you know, that’s where I met Rabbi Joel, my greatest teacher ever. I had to move travel, get everything in that truck, to move it, settling it, it, and little did I know, within two weeks, the dream appeared. Joseph Campbell calls it the reward. But there’s a lot of things we go through to make that happen. What he does talk about is when we don’t follow our calling, our yearnings, you know, we chicken out. I don’t have the confidence to do it. You will have regrets for the rest of your life, because deep down, you know, you failed. And in his book. The hero’s journey. He talks a lot about what what is left behind when we don’t answer the call. So if we think about going after something, it’s not about being successful. That’s nice when it happens. You know, years ago, my friend Bob turned my brother and I on to this guy talking about stocks. His name was Nick, and Nick was all about the gas prices going way down, wrong. The prices kept going up and up and up. Now, back then, it was like $22 a gallon. You could buy a gallon, you know, through, through the stock exchange of that, well, I lost a ton of money on that, but how I grew during it was well worth it. I’m never going to get that money back, as far as I can tell. Although I’ve been blessed with making money in different ways, that journey, the destination, wasn’t what we thought it would be, but but the experience that I had trusting, dealing with losses, dealing with disappointment, of that was well worth the journey. I grew immensely during the probably six eight months that we were trading, and then we finally surrendered. Now, ironically, gas went from $22 a barrel to it, I think it hit like 161 55 so if Nick the trainer would have told us to go up instead of down, Tim and I would be millionaires at this point because we were trading aggressively at the time. But no, they didn’t go down and went up. And I know my friend Bob was devastated by that. He felt bad, but I told him, I said, Yeah, would have been nice if it worked out it wasn’t meant to be, but it was the journey that transformed both Tim and I to be more cautious about people’s bullshit. So if you’ve got a dream, a goal, a vision, and you’re afraid to do it, do it anyway. It’s in that’s why I said it’s in the doing you become different, not the avoiding. If you avoid it, you weenie out. You come up with all kinds of rationalizations. Yeah, you’ll justify it in that. But guys and gals, it’s it’s going to mess with you. I have so many people in my practice that had dreams and goals, whether it was college, traveling, whatever it was, traveling the world. I hear that one frequently, but they weenie out and they just they live an unstimulated life because their soul knew they were supposed to do that. Alright. Listen, enjoy the weekend. We’re looking for some nice weather next weekend for the Fourth of July here in Northwest Indiana, and feel the fear, but do it anyway. It’s not about the destination. You have no control over it, whether it’s going to be successful, like this young woman opening this business, but as I’m watching her grow and expand herself through the journey, building her confidence in different things, because she has no idea what she was doing. And what’s ironic and beautiful is people are showing up on her path, guiding her, supporting her, helping her. So I think she’s on the right path to do what she’s doing, but that’s how it works, alright? Love you guys. God bless you. You.