The Father Wound

Hola, happy Friday. How are you guys? Little windy out here? The Tree of Life is blowing all over the place. I hope this stand doesn’t go down. What a lovely Friday for Northwest Indiana people. Hopefully everybody’s enjoying their weather. So I’m coming back to life. I’ve had some pretty bad bronchitis all week, so I wanted to do a video earlier, but the voice wasn’t working, so bear with me if it gets a little raspy. So Sunday, we’re doing the second part of psychodrama workshop, and if anybody wants to come and volunteer, especially for the first one, I’m trying something completely different. Sunday. It’s called a psychodrama soul retrieval. The young lady that’s doing it just dropped her information off for me, so I’m going to go back to the office and take a look at it. But if you show up, get there at 945 you’ll be there for a couple hours, and we’re going to show how we lose parts of ourself in our childhood that we don’t have to help us as adults, assertiveness, speaking your truth, setting limits, things like that. It’s going to be really cool. And one of my beloved family members is working Sunday also, so I’m really excited about watching that work and making it all happen. But today I want to talk about the Father wound. We all have a daddy wound, okay, men and women, and I’ve been intrigued by this for the last couple of months. Actually, my next chapter of the book I write about this, and I purchased a book a couple of weeks ago, and have been reading it slowly, and they’ve got a nice description and their questionnaire about the severity of your father wound. And I see this all the time in relationship issues with people men, if you don’t get approved of, loved by your dad, supported, you become more like a people pleaser, or you don’t have confidence, you hang out, you hide yourself for your women, depending on this is You girls, and this is your fit with your dad. Now, if it was a good daddy role model, it’s a good fit. So when dad leaves, you go out there looking for a man like your dad, a positive role model. The backside to this is it was a bad dad, a bad fit. Guess what? You’re looking for, daddy. And we do that unconsciously. You know, I see this all the time. People know better consciously. I know this guy’s not good for me, but there they go. The moth’s going to the flame, which was just the last chapter of my book. Why We humans are like moths going into the flame because we’re looking to fix stuff, but that’s your abnormal norm. And in this book that I’m reading, there’s so many traits that are missing in us with a father wound, and think of I’ve been thinking about this a lot. You know, my dad was not the greatest role model. He had some drinking problems, things like that. But the few times he took me and my brother fishing, probably five times. Maybe that was one of the greatest days of my life with him, because it was just us and dad helping us with the worms on the hook, high fives, we caught something in that. Well, what would happen if we got that consistently? You know, I had to work on a lot of daddy issues when I became an adult, because, you know, my dad, like I said, wasn’t the best role model, and dads teach us how to feel safe in the world and protect it. Well, if your dad isn’t a safe, protective individual, let’s say he’s an abuser, a mean drunk or absent, the child leaves the house without that sense of safety and security. So I’m going to be working on this foreign cycle drama to help people understand the effects of their father and that tree going. I’m ready to fly off this chair just kidding. It’s not that bad, but it feels like Jesus Christ we’re flying over here. So the book I’m reading, I’m not going to recommend it yet. I’m probably not going to accept this one question here. I’m probably going to type that up and share it with my clients. You know, there’s a couple other books I’m going to be looking into this one’s. And again, I’m not knocking Christians, but it’s a little too Christiany for me. I’m looking for something more psychologically based. But it’s a good starter book because it’s given me a lot of ideas to help people understand what the father how your father. Father wound is still affecting you. I don’t care if you’re 72 like I am, 4222 if you didn’t get that proper fathering from the dad, there’s issues, folks. And in his book, he’s got a lot of the symptoms to look for that are probably tied to the Father Wolf. So just something to think about. Again, the problem. And he explains this beautifully, what happened to the father role in America, and probably worldwide too. You know, when we got out of rural America, we became more urban dwellers and things like that. The World Wars, what that did to men. So a lot of the men were not properly mentored by their fathers or our grandfathers, and then they didn’t know what to do with us. They couldn’t be that bad. Well, the kids suffered. And the one thing he said in the book that really struck me, it’s most imperative to have a good father from your birth to five years old, because so much is developing in the child then. So think about it if you you didn’t have or it’s not just your father, it could be a stepfather, a male role model, if you didn’t have that good, nurturing father, those first five years of life that can affect your entire life. I was like, Holy crap, that early. So just something to play with guys. All right? Anybody listening, they want to come tonight. We’re going to Grif, the Central Market. The Little Giant is playing tonight. They’re really good band. We should be there around 530 or so. And if anybody out there wants to check out what we’re trying to do on Sunday with the psycho drama soul retrieval, come and check it out. Because that’s something, if I can pull off what I’m thinking up here. You know, it’s like the director of the movie, the director, hey, the director knows what they’re doing, but can you pull it off? So I’m, God willing, I’m going to be able to do that. And this young lady that’s working is so courageous, she’s surrendering. She said, I think you know what you’re doing. I’m going to just go with your flow. So alright, God bless you guys. Love you. Bye. Bye.