Why is changing so difficult for us

It. Hola, happy baby Friday, little tree of life is filling out nicely, isn’t it? I love watching it from this direction. I love that tree so much. Those trees anyway. So I want to talk about something today that’s been on my mind. I’ve I’ve had most of the week off, I’ve been contemplating something. Why didn’t we wait so long to get help? You know, I’ve been doing my job for 44 years, and it never ceases to amaze me how long it takes people to wake up. And I don’t know if I’ve got the answer to this. You know, one of the things I tell my clients is feather, Pebble, rock, Boulder, mountain or asteroid to wake us up. But why do we wait for the asteroids? You know, why does a guy get seven DUIs before he gets sober? Or why does a woman end up in the ICU from being battered to finally leave the abuser? What is going on with us? You know, we did the second part of our cycle drama last Sunday. Three brave souls really worked, including my beloved niece. And I was just so impressed with these people. But as I was listening to everything, it’s like, what’s the problem? Why don’t we see it right away? And part of the solution, I know, is the projections. You know, we we project this reality. I read something online this morning from some Indian guy talking about none of this is real. Everything I’m looking at right now I’ve made up in my mind. Well, why do we make up these stories about this person who’s going to save us or rescue us, or be our Messiah, or be the one that’s going to help us get to where we want to go. You meet you meet somebody you don’t know them from Adam. You have no idea what’s going on inside of them. What kind of evil is in there, what kind of wounds are in there? Does that make sense? But you project stuff, this is the one. You know, even when people walk into my office as a therapist and I’m I’m pretty stable, I’m pretty healthy on my good days and things like that, but they come into the office projecting stuff onto me, like I’m going to save them, I’m going to give them the answer, guys and gals, the answer is inside of your body, and that’s what I think a lot of people ignore. We’ve become so head oriented left brain, but especially in our heads, fantasizing, creating reality that we ignore this wonderful thing called the body, the thing below your neck, by the way, it should be our energy, PS, and yet our desires. I want this, so I’m going to go to this workshop. I’m going to trust this person to sell me the right stocks and all that. It’s so it’s so heartbreaking to me. I’ve just been watching this for so long, and that as I’ve been contemplating this, it’s like, what can I do besides slapping people? Because I want to do that a lot, okay, but I don’t, thank God. Well, what can we do to make people wake up? This, this, this is not going to work out. You know, one of the things that we use a lot in our work is the DR Hawkins consciousness calibrations. But even with that, you know, I explained it, I let them read stuff and that, that if you’re at this level, and your partners at this level, it’s highly unlikely you’re going to have a healthy relationship because you don’t live in the same reality, or many things they’ve done to betray you, let you down. He’ll change. He’ll change. They didn’t meet it right? Even with that information, there’s still something inside, and I’m wondering, this is my contemplation. Is the universe, the one the planner, the one that’s running the show here? Are we really avatars? Is that why we keep going to the flame? You know, I just did a chapter for the book called Why are humans like moss going to the flame? And I’m starting to really, really think that we are so controlled by something here that we’re set up to fail. We’re set up to have these relationships. We’re set up to put up with crap that we shouldn’t have to put up with because. Because the bigger picture rules. You know, they talk about the fourth dimension and the third dimension. This dimension is affected so deeply by a higher dimension and the forces that are in that dimension. But it’s just not that I don’t want to help people anymore. I do you know, Rabbi Joel would always tell me, we have free will, but the game is really Rick and boy, does that make sense 20 years later, more than it did when I first heard that from him in a class. Because, yeah, we do have free will, but there’s other factors going on that’s affecting us when I, when I make a decision to do something, I have to be so focused, because there’s so many distractions that get can get in the way, temptations. You know, I know It’s like that old battle with the angel and devil on each shoulder. We’re always battling that, but especially in relationships, it’s so heartbreaking. What I watch over and over and over again, and I sit there, it’s like, who was it? I had somebody yesterday I saw I know who it was, an amazing young woman, okay, bright, articulate, creative, artistic and that, and she’s hanging on to this relationship with this guy that I don’t think is good for her. He hides it, but he acts out every once in a while, okay, and I think, but she, she rationalizes that he doesn’t mean it. He’s doing better. It doesn’t happen that often at that why do we resist what is, you know, Byron Katie, she created this thing called the work where she helps people take a look at their thoughts and then her beliefs, and then work through those and that. So if you believe this person isn’t doing these bad things to you, you’re going to ignore it. You’re going to deny it. You know, if you got an abusive boss that’s picking on you all the time. I have the courage to get the hell out of there, but I really do think more and more as I as I get older, I’ll be 73 next month, I’m really thinking we’re kind of like avatars here, and that the game, like Rabbi Joel said, is really, really, really rigged. Okay, because the creator, the one that’s running the show, is like a director in a movie, the director knows what all the characters are supposed to do, where they’re supposed to stand, how they’re supposed to act, but it has a plan of how the movie is supposed to look and turn out right? Well, I think that’s kind of what’s happening here. So I just wanted to share this this morning, of kind of contemplating this yourself. Are you really in control of your life? Okay? Are as much as you think everybody thinks they are. You know, the ego, the small g God thinks it knows everything. Okay? It’s I don’t think it works that way, folks. I think there’s something else going on here beneath the surface that we need to think about. On occasion again, that moth going to that flame that’s us staying in this relationship, not making the changes in that but God, I though, you know, Morpheus told Neil, the wall the world has been pulled over our eyes. And from a matrix standpoint, that makes total sense. Well, I think it has been pulled over our eyes. I think we’ve missed out on a lot of opportunities because we fall for the mirages. So so just play with this idea. I’ll be talking about this more like I said. I wanted to share this today. This has been on my mind all week of how do I help people break the trances? And I know, you know, there’s hypnotherapy. You work on the subconscious, unconscious mind, things like that. But I even think it’s bigger than that. And again, this is just my opinion. You know, I don’t knock hypnotherapy or other other healing modalities, past life regression, things like that, but I really do think the game is rigged here, severely,