Eli’s 73rd Birthday wish for everyone

Hola, happy Sunday, although there is no sun out here, thank God it’s been hotter than heck these last couple days. So I want to do a talk today. Tomorrow, me and my twin brother Tim are turning 73 years old. What? Yep, 73 we’re so blessed to given 73 years, God willing, tomorrow, as you get older, you start to realize things. And I shared this on my Facebook Post this morning, so I wanted to talk about it. One of the lessons from living this long is you have to believe in something greater than yourself. And I’m not a big fan of the word God, because people create all kinds of scenarios. What that means, I know as a young Catholic, it was a guy on the throne with a beard and all this other crazy stuff. I’ve learned to eliminate that a lot through my Jewish Studies in the last 20 years. But it doesn’t matter. You can call it your higher self. You can call it the universe. You can call it the quantum field, whatever you want to call it. But what we have to develop at some point is surrender to something greater than ourselves, because the ego thinks it’s God with a small g and knows how people are supposed to be, how they’re supposed to act, what they’re supposed to wear, you know, who they’re supposed to vote for, and on and on it goes. And that is so ridiculous. But if you get to the point, and I’m closer now at 73 than I was at 33 or 43 I don’t worry a lot, you know, I’ve had some medical problems, you know, the last past year and other things, had some family issues, lot of crazy stuff. I don’t sit there and obsess about it because I believe in I’ve got this in my office. Thy will be done. Okay, whoever your thy is, so you have to figure that out like I did. I’m not here converting anybody to Judaism or any type of religion. I I’m a spirituality junkie, but after studying everything that I’ve studied and learned and been taught, there’s something else going on here, folks. You know, I was listening to Rabbi kissing. He’s one of my favorite new rabbis about the debate between Donald Trump and Biden, and I’m not going to get into that, but he talked about how God interceded there somehow, and in his faith, what he believes, and he’s talked many, many other things about how it works here. From studying with Rabbi Joel for 18 and a half years, I learned Joel would use a lot of science. I’m a kind of a science geek. There’s something else afoot here. Okay, now, working with people for 44 plus years, the majority of people I see think they’re in charge of everything, and we know better. The curveballs come, the tsamis Come, we’re in charge of nothing. We have the illusion of control. And I had a client in yesterday. I was trying to get this through his thick skull. You control nothing here at all. You have the illusion of control. You know, like today, I had three appointments. I did a couple other things. I wanted to do a talk before my birthday. I Everything’s in pencil for me, I don’t because Thy Will is my world, and I learned the hard way. This is what I wanted to point out. You know, when we’re young and strong and all that other stuff, we get very, very egotistical. Okay? We think we’re in charge of everything. We know what’s right. We know how our life plan is supposed to go. If you would have told me 20 years ago, I’d be sitting here with this phone, looking at me doing videos and writing a book about my journey and things I’ve learned, I might have went, Oh, that’s interesting, but I didn’t see this coming probably even 10 years ago. But when things come my way, I surrender. Surrender is so difficult for us humans, because we want to be in charge. We want to be in control. That’s all the ego, okay? And the ego, everybody talks about getting rid of the ego. The ego is about survival. It served us well to what, how many 1000s of years ago when dinosaurs were chasing us, or lions and tigers? So it’s all about the ego. But. So it’s survival mode, but that’s all it is. It shouldn’t be God. Should be playing God. So as I got older, I started getting knocked off my horse a lot, let’s say, you know, my addiction, a failed marriage, things like that. But all of that happened for me, not to me, okay, to get me to the point in my life where I started to surrender, more, especially when I got sober. I wrote my book. That’s that’s when I started to finally believe in something greater than me, because I thought I was in charge. You know, I had no idea the life journey I was going to have, what was going to happen, what’s going to happen to our bodies? Nobody knows, and I see people all the time going crazy, like with this presidential debate now. I mean, the energy with that is amazing. You know, the fighting and all that. I vote got it every election, okay? Because his will is our will. I shouldn’t say his, because we don’t know what it that’s why I like Judaism. It’s not a hymn, it’s it’s an essence, okay, creates everything. I shared in my book recently a quote from Michael singer’s book the surrender experiment, and I shared it on here. I can either believe in what I want it to be reality and fight reality to get it, or I can surrender to the powers that be that created all the beauty in in the planet, in this world, in our lives. Hell, I’m tired. I got tired of fighting. I got tired of playing Whack a Mole. It’s exhausting. And this young man that was in my office yesterday, I felt like I was wrestling with him for a while, because he knows how things are supposed to be, but he’s young and he’s egotistical, and he thinks he knows how life’s supposed to be. You guys know this, if you’re listening to this, look at your life. How many things did you really predict? You know, a death of a child, the death of a parent, early, a job loss, health issue, okay, we we’re just we’re sitting ducks here. But I know somebody’s got my back. You know, I shared on Facebook a couple days ago. There’s a song by Bette Midler called the wing, the wind beneath my wings. And I always give my brother Tim kudos for that, because for 73 years tomorrow, he’s been the wind beneath my wings, supporting me, backing me up. Yeah, he chose a different life path, and me and twins. That’s weird. It’s like he did that side. I did that side, but together we created a new side. So he’s done very traditional things in that marriage, kids, etc, etc. That was never in the stars of the plants. For me, that wasn’t what I was here to do. I tried it, you know, thank God I knew when I was young. I didn’t want kids. But, you know, I understand it as I’ve gotten older what that was, and didn’t give into it, because I would have probably been a crappy parent resenting, having having remorse that I couldn’t do what I really wanted to do. And I love kids. Kids love me. I play with them and that, but that wasn’t on my journey. Somehow I knew that at 18 and 19, and I thankfully honored that along the way. You know, I bless all you parents that are working hard out there. You know what a job it is watching my niece raise two young kids by herself, pretty much. And holy cow, another friend of mine’s got three kids as a single parent. Holy cow. But what life has taught us, and that’s why, hopefully you’ll get this before 73 there is something else going on here that’s in in charge. Okay, yes, we do have free will. I chose to wear this beautiful tie dye today with Eli, the restorer on here. My sister in law made this. But the bigger things we don’t have any control over, like me sitting here today, talking to you guys, or me sitting down, writing a book, or other things, and I’m, you know, in the book, I talk about all the serendipities and how life was just leading me in the direction I was supposed to go, but what I had to do is quit fighting. And that’s the biggest problem I see with people every day in my office, people coming in upset about things. And, yeah, we’re human. You know, when a curveball comes, it’s not fun, but it was meant to happen. I’ve got a really good friend who’s hated truck driving for the last 10 years, and I kept talking to him, get out of it. Get out of it. There’s more to you. Well, life came in and he got injured severely on his job, and he can’t work now, but he’s taking the time off. So we saw him Friday night at a little fest here in town, and he came out for a little birthday celebration. And we do these soul calibrations, how much of your soul is involved in doing this? Like me as a therapist, I’m at a. Percent. Well, we calibrated him as a truck driver 35% Well, recently, a friend reached out to him, talked to him about becoming a locksmith. What out of the blue? What divine timing? So we calibrated that my friend working as a locksmith would be actualizing his soul’s essence at 100% he was born to do that job, but he’s been busy driving a truck, being miserable and unhappy. That’s life. So it happens for us, not to us guys, when you get knocked off your horse, get back up and say, maybe I’m on the wrong path here. You know, that’s what many things in my life have taught me. When things didn’t work out, they failed, knocked off my horse, I shook myself off and then took a look at things and said, Maybe I’m not doing what I’m supposed to do. We’re getting divine guidance all the time here. We just don’t realize it okay, because our little egos are in charge, thinking they’re God. They know what’s best. And I’m not talking about going to church necessarily, and that all that’s fine. You know, Temple whatever you want to do, but it’s really about surrendering to life. That’s what Michael singer’s book the surrender experiment, talked about. And lo and behold, his life was magical. If you guys ever read his book, he had no idea, probably in his early 20s, when he started surrendering more where life was going to take him. Okay, we don’t know anything remember, we see this much of reality. Who’s ever in charge sees the whole thing and knows where the pieces are supposed to fit. So quit putting around pig in a square hole or a square peg in a round hole. I guess you could rub it in there to get it in there, but it’s gonna hurt. So that’s wanted us share my birthday message to you guys. I’ve learned a lot in these 73 years, but that, to me, that was the biggest gift I got, I started learning how to surrender to something greater. So hopefully you guys can start doing the same thing and start little you know, if, if an invitation fails, you know, I was supposed to see my friend and her daughters today. Weather change their their plans change. Okay? Was it meant to be? That’s how I live with things. Okay? We make plans, which makes God laugh, right? Because the planner is in charge of everything. All right. God bless you guys. You can send your birthday wishes if you want. Don’t worry about that. We made 73 years in another what is it? 1213, hours. So I’m grateful for that. That, to me, is the present. God bless you guys. Love you. Bye.