Fourth of July message on freedom

Hola, Happy Fourth of July. Let’s keep our fingers safe. It’s a little overcast here in Northwest Indiana, but it’s supposed to be a nice day. So I want to talk about freedom today. You know where this country is celebrating America’s freedom from British rule, how we got away from their control, etc, etc, and that was a very brave thing to do. But doing therapy for 44 plus years now, I’ve come to realize that we are not as free as we think we are. We have the illusion of freedom. So where does the British come from? They come from our beliefs, our fear of vulnerability. They come from this body, the dog collar, the electric dog collar. And I watched people over and over, resist change. Part of me sits there with clients and says, we’ll just do it. You know, go skydiving. That’s a big one, though I that’s a tat little one. Stand up for yourself, set boundaries, get out of a relationship, etc, etc, and I know that they can’t do it because their little parrot mind creates beliefs to stop them from doing it. I’ll get abandoned. People won’t like me. I’ll get punched, etc, etc, and then you’ve got your nervous system, which I call the electric dog collar. In this body, when we start to leave our comfort zone, we get uncomfortable. The body sends chemicals. This is the great work of Dr Joe Dispenza, which I totally recommend people learning, especially his My favorite book is probably breaking the habit of being yourself, because what Joe talks about in that book is how the body has got us on a leash. Okay, because you get reactions, chemicals, hormones and that, and as soon as you start to do something different. Holy cow. You know, when I started doing these videos five and a half years ago or six, whatever it’s been, I had never done this before, so obviously my body was giving me some chemicals. I was a little anxious, little nervous. You know, I would come up with scripts. Now I just flow with it, because I’ve trained my body to be comfortable doing it. And one of my favorite quotes that I highly recommend, it’s in the doing, we become different, not the thinking, okay, not the analyzing stuff. And I, I don’t have it with me, but I saw so, saw Joe Dispenza quote yesterday about being surrendering and being more free here, guys and gals, we can do whatever we want here, okay, good and bad, preferably good, right? But good or bad, we can do whatever we want, okay, but what happens is the mind starts to go crazy. What about this? What about that? What about that? All that? And then the body, because we’re thinking about something different, starts to react with chemicals and hormones, which we call feelings. I tell my clients all the time, I had to drag my body on the plane the first time I went skydiving, almost literally, because all the chemicals were flowing this body wanted, wanted nothing to do with jumping out of a plane at 14,000 feet at all. But because my frontal lobes, which Joe talks a lot about in his books, that should be driving the bus, my determination, my focus, my commitment to this. You know, when I got sober, I talked to tell people the first year was horrible because of the urges, the cravings, and that my body got addicted to those chemicals, and it wanted it. It didn’t want to stop. But after about a year, I retrained it, and it all calmed down, because I guess it forgot about the dopamine from the drugs, right? But for the first year, it was difficult. What is so heartbreaking for Eli is when I see people suffering so much, struggling because they can’t get out of their comfort zone. You’ve got to get uncomfortable. To get comfortable, believe me, I’ve looked I’ve looked for this. There’s no other way you get a little uncomfortable like me starting to. Videos at the beginning, and now I don’t bat an eye, you know, I just come out, and it’s like brushing my teeth or combing my hair, but you got to be willing to get uncomfortable for a while. You know, think about when we started to drive. Most of us were anxious as heck, but because we were so committed to getting that license, we were willing to tolerate what was happening in our body, to learn to drive, to get that darn license, right? Well, basically, that’s what we gotta do in all areas of our life. Get uncomfortable. It’s going to pass. I promise you, the body will come around, the mind will come around, and then you’ll feel like Rocky on those stairs. If you’ve seen the Rocky movie where you feel like pride, good, pride. I did it, oh my gosh. You know, I had a client in yesterday, and she’s she’s still in school, and she’s never done a cartwheel in her life. And it really bugged her. It was gnawing her. Now, I don’t have much desire to learn to do a cartwheel, but for her, she was being blocked by her body, and so she made the commitment, partly because of what I’ve taught her, to go try it. So she showed me the video yesterday of doing a cartwheel, and it was a really good cartwheel. And she laughed, she said, because it was like, what was the big deal? It’s usually worse in our heads, in our bodies, than the experience. And when you free yourself, when you get off that dog leash, you you can run with all the dogs in the neighborhood. You don’t have to worry about anything. So guys and gals, as we’re celebrating Fourth of July, the the freedom from British role in that. Let’s also think about our own, our own personal freedom. Why are you still in that relationship? Why are you in that horrible job? Why are you still doing drugs, etcetera, etcetera, that, you know, I’ve got a friend that quit a job recently, and it was really a hostile work environment, she said, and it was wearing her down. And then she said, I talked to her yesterday, before she’d go to work, she’d stop on the way to work and do a breathing session for about 15 minutes, just to calm her body to walk into the the Auschwitz, okay? And that’s how she coped with it, but it almost helped her cope for too long. So one day, she finally got fed up, and she said, I’m done. I’m walking away. No job, you know, not financially that stable on that. But she finally said, Enough is enough, and I’m so proud of her. That’s one reason why I advocate rebirthing breath work, because what rebirthing teaches, and I’m doing another class on july 21 at 230 at the office, you activate stuff in your body through the breathing, usually old stuff that you’ve buried inside, but you keep breathing through it, and after a while, you integrate it. You don’t resist anything. And what rebirthing does, it’s like a microcosm for how to live in the world. So I get zapped by things, I get triggered. I feel stuff inside. But I’ve learned because of all the breath work I’ve done and other healing things I’ve done, especially with meditation, that I don’t mind getting zapped. You know, there was a guy, G Gordon Liddy, that was in the Nixon administration, kind of a weird guy, and he would go to parties, and if there was a candle, he would put his hand over the flame of the candle, and you could literally smell is hand burning. Now, that’s little crazy, right? Okay, I don’t think I’m going to do that. That’s not on my bucket list, but people would ask him, What is the trick? How do you do that? He said, I don’t mind the pain. So if we don’t mind what’s happening in our body, that triggers the chemicals and that we’re free. You can put your handle ready flame you want. So let’s start today, baby steps, ones and twos, no tension, no skydiving, okay? And start to push your comfort zone just a little bit. Get a little more uncomfortable. Sorry, we got a bug out here. Just get more uncomfortable. And then when you’re you adapt to it. Your body adapts. It’s going to learn what’s the big deal. So we’re uncomfortable a little bit, but then you’re free again. You’ll run with all the dogs in the neighborhood. So I hope this talk today, I usually like to do one on the Fourth of July based on freedom concepts. It gives you some thoughts to think about, where are you being blocked by your body?