Understanding our “state of being”

body-mind connection, state of being, chaotic environments, subconscious influence, chemical cravings, sobriety struggle, dopamine addiction, retraining body, frontal lobes, urges and cravings, meditation benefits, gratitude chemicals, negative focus, change resistance, comfort zone

Eli discussed the concept of “state of being” from Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work, emphasizing the body-mind connection. He explained how early environments shape adult behaviors, leading to cravings for chemicals like cortisol and adrenaline. Eli shared his personal struggle with sobriety, highlighting the battle between conscious and subconscious desires. He stressed the importance of understanding and retraining the body to align with conscious goals. Eli used metaphors like a dog on a leash to illustrate the body’s temptations and advocated for meditation and gratitude to foster positive chemical responses. He concluded by encouraging awareness to overcome urges and maintain change.

Understanding the Body-Mind Connection

• Eli introduces the concept of “state of being” from Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work, focusing on the body-mind connection.
• Eli explains how clients are often unaware of how their state of being influences their life choices and behaviors.
• He discusses how chaotic environments in childhood can lead to cravings for similar environments as adults, releasing chemicals like cortisol and adrenaline.
• Eli shares his personal experience with sobriety and how his subconscious mind tempted him to relapse despite his conscious desire to stay sober.

The Role of the Subconscious Mind

• Eli elaborates on how the subconscious mind can send thoughts that contradict the conscious mind’s desires.
• He recounts his struggle with cravings for dopamine after quitting cocaine and how it took about a year to train his body to resist these urges.
• Eli emphasizes the importance of understanding the body-mind connection to help clients create new life choices.
• He uses the metaphor of a dog on a leash to illustrate how the body can tempt and trick individuals into behaviors they know are not beneficial.

Retraining the Body

• Eli explains that the body becomes accustomed to certain chemicals and environments, making change difficult.
• He discusses the importance of the frontal lobes in making decisions and how the body often craves feelings that lead to chemical releases.
• Eli shares how understanding the body-mind connection can help individuals fight urges and cravings.
• He mentions the importance of being 100% committed to change to overcome the body’s resistance.

Practical Strategies for Change

• Eli talks about the challenges of fighting urges and cravings, using examples like drug addiction and pornography issues.
• He suggests that having a strong mind is crucial in fighting the body’s temptations.
• Eli shares a personal anecdote about avoiding ice cream to illustrate how environmental changes can help manage cravings.
• He emphasizes the importance of staying conscious and aware to avoid falling into unconscious trances that hinder change.

The Power of Gratitude and Meditation

• Eli discusses the benefits of living in gratitude and how it can replace negative chemicals in the body.
• He explains how meditation and imagining a new state of being can help train the body to prefer positive emotions.
• Eli shares his personal practice of feeling gratitude for small things, like passing through railroad tracks, to maintain a positive state of being.
• He contrasts the positive effects of gratitude with the negative impact of staying in fear, chaos, and negativity.

Challenges of Staying Positive

• Eli talks about how negative people often focus on negative aspects because their body craves the chemicals from negative emotions.
• He mentions that understanding the body-mind connection can help individuals break free from negative patterns.
• Eli emphasizes the importance of staying aware and conscious to avoid being driven by unconscious urges.
• He concludes by reiterating the difficulty of change and the need to understand the body-mind connection to make lasting changes.

Final Thoughts and Future Plans

• Eli expresses his intention to finish the chapter on understanding the state of being over the weekend.
• He mentions the possibility of conducting another Kabbalah class if he finds time.
• Eli encourages participants to be open to learning about Kabbalah, describing it as his metaphysical system that he has been using for the last 20 years.
• He signs off by wishing everyone a good weekend and expressing his love and appreciation for the participants.

Hola, happy Friday, hopefully you guys aren’t too fried yet, got through the week, survived Halloween, not a lot of tricks. I hope so. I started working on Chapter 45 yesterday, and the title of the chapter is how our state of being can control our life choices and state of being is a concept that I learned from Doctor Joe Dispenza work talking about the body mind connection. So what I’m going to do is I’m going to read you guys this short paragraph and then talk about what, what this battle is really about, how we struggle with the body mind connection. And Joe dispenses amazing book entitled breaking the habit of being yourself, which I recommend to all my clients. He defines a concept called our state of being. I regularly see how most of my clients are controlled by this state without having a clue. It is happening. Basically, our bodies become addicted to certain chemicals and hormones which it will constantly crave. For instance, if we are raised in a chaotic family environment, as adults, we will be drawn to chaotic friendships or relationships because our bodies need the chemicals that re that chaos releases like cortisol and adrenaline. What’s worse is we aren’t conscious of why we keep staying even though we know better. I often hear clients say, I know he’s not good for me, or I need to quit smoking, or I should quit tolerating her abusive behavior. Their conscious mind knows better, but something else is going on. Dispenza teaches that our bodies are the home of our subconscious mind, and it can send you thoughts that go against what your conscious mind wants. When I got sober, I’d frequently have thoughts about getting high again. Even though I was committed to sobriety, I wanted to stay sober. This battle lasted for about a year, and then it slowly subsided, as I’ve discovered, from dispenses teachings, my subconscious mind was working overtime to tempt me to give it the chemicals it had become addicted to by using. In this case, my body was craving dopamine for my cocaine usage. Thankfully, my mind was strong enough to fight these urges, which I now realize happens to everyone when we try to make a change. In this chapter, I hope to explain how I help my clients when they want to create a new life. The first step in this process is understand our states of being and how to retrain our bodies and you know, we’ve got, I’ve got this little picture in the office. It’s a dog walking a man on a leash. And I showed you guys this before, but the bot the dog is a metaphor for the body. The body wants what it wants, and it’s going to trick you, tempt you into getting what it wants, like me wanting to get high, even though I knew I needed to stay sober, or the person that wants to quit smoking, because they know it’s not healthy for their body, but their body works triple over time to seduce them back in the light net cigarette. When we’re raised in a certain environment, our bodies become addicted and accustomed to those certain chemicals that that environment produces, like I said, the chaos and as as adults, we find ourselves in situations that are very Chadic. It could be a relationship, a workplace, you know, a company that you don’t want to be in because it’s so crazy there, but you keep going because your body keeps dragging you because you’re on that leash. So once you understand what’s going on with change and why the body and mind are not working together all the time, the goal is to get them to be a team like right now, my body likes sobriety. We got used to it. No more cocaine, no more other drugs, but especially the coke. We’re not running for that high a dopamine all the time. But like I said, it took me about a year to train it. So think about your body is kind of like a dog. You get it to heal, you get it to behave. Because if he, if you’re letting the body run the show the feelings, it’s all about the feelings. Chemicals and hormones create feelings. So if you, if you’re craving those certain feelings, the body wants to be in charge. We don’t even know this. You know what? What I’ve learned? Uh, from studying with Joe’s work, is the frontal lobes, the part of the US that’s in charge needs, needs to make the decisions, not the body. How many times where we’ve given in to urges and cravings, and then we go, Oh my God, what did I do? And we see this a lot with drug addicts. When they relapse, it got so intense in here that they couldn’t fight it anymore, and they just said, Screw it, I’m giving in. And then they go relapse, but then they feel devastated. I wish treatment centers would educate people about the body mind connection and how this all works, because if you don’t know what you’re up against, it’s really hard to fight it. Even knowing what we’re up against can be difficult. It’s kind of like there’s a solution, but you don’t see it okay. So if I tell you, your body is going to rebel, kick and scream all the way to where you’re going, No, I don’t want to go. It’s like, kind of like a little kid. I don’t want to go to bed. I’m not tired, and all that. Well, that’s kind of what the body does. And then it gives you unconscious or subconscious thoughts to get high, to stay in the relationship, etcetera, etcetera. It literally can do that. That’s why I find Joe’s work so amazing. So to make permanent change, First, understand what you’re up against. And I think this helps my clients a lot. When I tell them, You’re addicted to those chemicals. Okay, your body is, I mean, not you. You don’t want these chemicals. I don’t want the chaos. I don’t want all the stress anymore. But Darn it, I keep going like the moth goes into the flame, right? We keep going and going and going. So once you understand that, then, then the mind has to be stronger than the body, fighting the urges, the cravings, the desires. You know, I’ve worked with men with pornography issues, right? And frequently they’re saying they can’t fight it, because the body really takes over. And you know, when you’re looking at pornography, the dopamine kicks in and three pleasure centers in the brain get activated. How the heck are you going to change that? You’re fighting city hall there, but it’s possible, but this is the key to change for me, and using this information from Joel, you have to be 100% committed. If you’re 97% committed, the body is going to find a way in to trick you. It’s kind of like the angel and the devil is on our shoulder. The angel knows what’s best, but the devil keeps tempting, and eventually you start listening to the devil and you give in. I I’ve used this simple little example over the years with my clients, um, my feminine essence loves ice cream, but I don’t keep it here at home, because if I’m sitting on the couch and all of a sudden, the urge comes Ice cream. Ice cream. Ice cream. Now that’s coming from my body. It wants the chemicals that ice cream gives you, the sugar high in that. So if I have it in my refrigerator, it takes me about 15 steps to get to the refrigerator. I don’t want that here in my house. Same thing when people get sober, when they come out of treatment, they’re told to get rid of all the drugs or alcohol in the house. So if I get the cravings and urgings and it’s sitting 15 feet away, it gets so intense, I say, Screw it. I’m going to go do it, just to shut this stuff off. But if it’s not here, if I got to jump in the car and drive to the Dairy Queen, I got a fighting chance to stay conscious. See when you go unconscious, you’re in a trance, and good luck making changes. You have to be aware of what’s happening, and if you’re not, we’re just dogs barking at the door bell, right? We we know See, that’s the thing. We know better. But nobody talks about this. I’ve had clients say to me for years, I know I shouldn’t do this, but I keep doing it because they don’t understand the body mind connection. And one of the things Dispenza talks about a lot is meditation, where you get into the quantum field and you imagine a new state of being, and eventually you train the body to like it like I love, to live in gratitude. I I’m grateful for things all the time, big things, little things, but especially the little things. And you know, on the way to my office, I have two sets of railroad trucks I have to go over. So something that simple, when I can pass both of them, it’s like, yeah, I’m grateful. And my body likes that chemical of gratitude. It’s one of the. Greatest chemicals you can you can live with. But if you’re staying in fear, chaos, worry, negativity and all that, that’s why people stay negative. You know, you know negative nancies, or the Karens out there, the negative nancies don’t know what, why they’re continually negative, or they focus on the negative stuff. Our angry people can find angry things to be angry about. There’s all kinds of stuff in the world to be ticked off about, but they focus on that because the body makes them focus on that, because that wants the chemicals from the anger. Excuse me, little hair ball today, so I wanted to I’m going to finish this chapter, hopefully this weekend, but I wanted just to do a little presentation to give you some information about why change is so hard. This is why we don’t leave the comfort zone, because the body doesn’t like that. It likes what we’re used to. So when you make changes, the body starts to kick and scream like a two year old. All right, listen, enjoy your weekend, and I’ll be in touch more. I’m going to be maybe doing another Kabbalah class this weekend, if I find time for that. Hopefully you guys are open to at least learning about it. It’s really fun talking about it, because this is my metaphysical system that I’ve been using for the last 20 years. All right, be good. Love you guys. Bye, bye.