Video Summary Keywords
psychodrama workshop, parts therapy, self-awareness, relationship dynamics, shadow work, unconscious parts, Carl Jungian psychology, relationship tension, personal growth, authentic self, parts identification, emotional protection, relationship conflict, self-land, parts cabinet
Video Summary
Eli introduces a new psychodrama workshop scheduled for March 9, focusing on how internal parts, such as the people pleaser or the caretaker, can dominate relationships and cause friction. Eli shares an example of a recently married couple whose parts, like insecurity and venom, are causing tension. He emphasizes the importance of becoming conscious of these parts to lead an authentic life. Eli also mentions a shadow work session on Sunday and encourages participants to attend to make their unconscious parts conscious. He highlights the benefits of this work, including feeling calm, confident, and creative, and invites interested individuals to mark their calendars for the upcoming events.
Introduction and Personal Reflections
- Eli begins the meeting by greeting everyone and sharing his sense of calm and peace, attributing it to the recent stabilization of the Schuman resonance.
- He encourages participants to pay attention to their own feelings of calm and peace, suggesting it might be a sign of something positive.
- Eli expresses excitement about introducing a new psychodrama workshop scheduled for March 9, inviting everyone to mark their calendars.
- He describes the concept of “parts parties” at Cycle Drama, where clients identify and work on various parts of themselves that take over their lives.
Understanding Parts and Their Impact
- Eli explains how different parts, such as the people pleaser, caretaker, and addict, develop in childhood and take control of adult lives.
- He provides an example of how these parts can lead to conflicting actions, like saying “yes” when one means “no.”
- Eli introduces a couple who are recently married and experiencing friction due to their parts taking over, leading to a relationship where their parts are having a relationship instead.
- He describes how these parts protect individuals from past experiences of rejection, abandonment, or criticism but can cause problems in relationships when they take over.
The Role of Parts in Relationships
- Eli elaborates on how parts like the insecure part in the husband and the venomous part in the wife can escalate conflicts in a relationship.
- He emphasizes that parts have functions, such as protecting from rejection, and that they move into relationships, complicating interactions.
- Eli discusses the goal of the work, which is to lead an authentic self-led life, feeling calm, confident, and creative.
- He mentions Dick Schwartz’s list of qualities that indicate being in “self land” versus “parts land,” highlighting the differences in feelings and experiences.
Consciousness and Management of Parts
- Eli shares his personal experience with his own part, the attic part, which he had to confront and manage.
- He explains that while parts do not disappear, becoming conscious of them is crucial for managing their impact.
- Eli describes a couple he is working with, who are assigned homework to write down their parts and attend the workshop on March 9.
- He uses the metaphor of the self as the president and parts as the cabinet, suggesting that parts can work with us if we are conscious of them.
Embodying and Confronting Shadows
- Eli introduces an upcoming shadow work session on Sunday, where participants will embody their shadow parts to make them conscious.
- He emphasizes the importance of making the unconscious conscious to prevent it from manifesting negatively.
- Eli invites participants to attend the workshop if they are in a relationship and want to understand and manage their parts better.
- He reflects on his own journey of becoming conscious of his parts in the late 80s and early 90s, which helped him avoid letting his parts take over.
Final Thoughts and Invitation to Workshop
- Eli reiterates the importance of being aware of parts to avoid them causing harm in relationships.
- He expresses excitement about the upcoming workshop on March 9 and encourages everyone to attend.
- Eli shares his passion for creating new ways to help people and believes this work could be a valuable asset for participants.
- He concludes the meeting by inviting participants to mark their calendars for the workshop and expresses his love and farewell.
Video Transcript
Hola, happy Thursday. We’re almost at the end. God bless, right? So I shared something yesterday, posted, I don’t know about you all, but yesterday, I had this great sense of calm and peace, you know, kind of like this calm before something. So I don’t know what the heck was going on. I know last week the Schuman resonance, the heartbeat of the Earth, was wacky as hell. Maybe it finally calmed down, but just and today, I’m feeling it too, just like Zen, like I don’t have to meditate or anything. I’m just in that zen mode. So if you guys are noticing that, pay attention to that. Enjoy it, right? So I’m excited to introduce a new cycle drama workshop that we’re going to be doing March 9. So if you’re free, you want to check it out. Mark your calendars now March 9, I’m going to do a couple, you know, we do these parts parties at cycle drama. So the client IDs eight or 10 parts to themselves that take over, like the people pleaser, the caretaker part, the addict part, the idiot part, you know, whatever parts we develop when we’re kids, and basically, they run the show. They take over our life. They drive our life bus when we don’t want them to always tell clients. You know, the example I use is, hey, do you want to help me move Saturday? Well, they’re thinking no in their head, but yes comes out of their mouth. Well, how’s that possible? The part the people pleaser. So what we’re going to do on March 9, for the first time ever, is, I’ve got a couple that are recently married, and they’re having some struggles already, but as I’ve been working with them, it’s become really clear to me, they love one another. They care about one another. They’re happy to be together. So why are they having all this friction and tension? Because their parts take over. So for instance, the the husband may get insecure. So his insecure part comes out, controlling in that, and then her venomous part comes out. We’ve already identified that for the wife, and she’s like, like a cat, and it just escalates from there. So basically, what’s happening is they’re no longer in a relationship, the husband and wife, they’re in the background. Their parts are having a relationship with one another, trying to get control or feel safe, or whatever their focus is. All parts have a function. They protect us from something like our people pleaser. Part typically protects you from rejection or or abandonment or criticism, but one of those three because it doesn’t want you to feel that, because you felt that too much as a kid. So as a child, we developed this people pleaser so mommy and daddy don’t yell at us or abandon us. Well, the bad news is, when you move out your parts, move with you into relationships or your life. And the goal of this work is to lead, lead an authentic self, led life. Feel calm, feel confident, feel creative. Dick Schwartz, the guy that taught us parts therapy, he came up with a list of about 10 qualities of when you’re in self land, when you’re feeling as yourself, how different you feel than when you’re in a park. And the problem, like my attic part took over what I sniffed around with some cocaine and it he was kind of running the show for a long time, until I kicked him out. Now he’s still in there. You don’t lose your parts. But what you do, number one, you become conscious of these parts, because a lot of people don’t realize what’s happening. Most people that I work with anyway, I had a couple in last night. I was explaining this to them, and I gave them some homework. Hopefully they’re going to come and watch the workshop on the ninth of March, but I said, Start writing down parts, because they love one another. They have a good relationship. They’ve been married a long time, but sometimes the parts come out and have the relationship, and you’re just witnessing this and going, what the hell is going on? So with this couple that we’re going to do on the ninth, they’re going to watch their parts take over the goal of this work. Then the metaphor I’ve come up with, the self should be the president. Your parts should be in your cabinet. So sometimes your parts can work with you. Like if I get pulled over by a police officer, my people pleasers coming out, he’s going to try to please the hell out of him, so I don’t get a ticket, but I’m consciously using him. The problem for most couples is they’re not conscious of what’s going on, and so these parts just run rampant, and now I’m getting a divorce because I can’t stand you anymore. Well, yeah, you love your partner, but you hate his parts or her parts. You. So this is going to be epic. I don’t know anybody doing this work, especially in Dick Schwartz’s world, I like to embody stuff. You know, the body remembers everything, not just in your head. That’s why this Sunday, if you haven’t seen it yet, we got three brave souls coming in, and they’re doing shadow work, okay, but it’s not just writing it down and all that. They’re literally going to be their shadow parts to embody them, to make them conscious. And I’ve said many times before, I’m very Carl Jungian psycho psychology based Young said you have to make the unconscious conscious, otherwise it stays underneath and comes out through the back door, and it can put you on Dateline or ruin your life. So if you’re not busy and you want to check this out, or if you’re in a relationship and you want to dig into this, you know, get, get a hold of me. I can, you know, we can plan to well, come to the workshop, first see it, and then, like with the couples I’m working with now, I’m going to encourage all of them to come and maybe do this work. It’s I did this work a lot back in the late 80s, early 90s, I became so conscious of what’s going on in here, I don’t let it take over anymore, hopefully, usually we work together. It’s when you’re not aware of it that they come out, and they can really mess things up. Okay, somebody you love, you’ve just destroyed with your Venom coming at your partner, and then afterwards, what? You feel guilty, you feel ashamed, but you don’t even know it wasn’t you. Everybody says, I, I did it. No, you didn’t. Your parts. Did it to protect you for some reason. And if you don’t figure that out, and we work on that, they’re going to keep running the show, driving that bus. I don’t want my parts driving my bus. They’ll crash me into the wall. So keep that in mind, hopefully. Well, I’ll see some of you this Sunday for the cool shadow work, and then March 9, I’m going to be advertising this. This is something epic. I you know, I get, I like creating new things. You know, that’s my mind. It’s always looking for ways to help people. And I think this could be a really, really, really good asset for you guys. So, March, 9, 945, Be there or be square. Love you. Bye, bye.