Healing work increases the odds of finding a good mate

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Super Bowl, end times, cosmic virus, childhood wounds, projecting relationships, psychotherapy, unconscious mind, spiritual beliefs, dating qualities, frontal lobe, addiction recovery, psychodrama work, relationship healing, Rabbi Joel, Breaking the Habit.

Video Summary

Eli discusses the concept of “end times” and relates it to the Super Bowl, suggesting that unusual events, like the Chiefs potentially winning three consecutive Super Bowls, could be a sign. He explains that current societal issues, such as furries in schools, are part of a cosmic virus related to the fall of Adam. Eli emphasizes the importance of healing childhood wounds to avoid repeating past relationship mistakes. He advocates for psychotherapy and psychodrama to address unhealed traumas, which can lead to better relationship choices and prevent repeating dysfunctional patterns. Eli shares personal experiences and advice on creating a list of desired qualities in a partner to avoid projecting unmet needs.

Super Bowl and End Times

  • Eli begins by wishing a happy Super Bowl Sunday and expresses a preference for a good game over a specific team winning.
  • Eli mentions Rabbi Joel’s teachings about the end times, suggesting that if the Chiefs win three consecutive Super Bowls, it could be a sign of end times.
  • Eli uses the analogy of a computer virus to explain that everything in our reality must be played out to its end to ensure no virus remains.
  • Eli relates the current global chaos to the fall of Adam, describing it as a cosmic virus that must be eliminated.

Projections in Relationships

  • Eli discusses how unhealed childhood wounds influence adult relationships, using the example of a woman projecting her unmet needs onto her husband.
  • Eli emphasizes that people often miss red flags in relationships because they are projecting their unmet needs from their past.
  • Eli shares a story of a woman who repeatedly visited a bar hoping to meet a man she had seen there, leading to a disastrous marriage.
  • Eli argues that projecting unhealed wounds into relationships does not work and can lead to long-term suffering.

The Importance of Psychotherapy

  • Eli suggests that everyone should undergo two years of good psychotherapy from ages 18 to 20 before getting married or having children.
  • Eli highlights the impact of unhealed childhood wounds on children, who often mimic their parents’ dysfunctional behaviors.
  • Eli explains how the subconscious and unconscious minds drive people to seek out what they need, often leading to repeated negative patterns.
  • Eli references Joe Dispenza’s book, “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself,” which explains how the mind works and why people keep falling for the same mistakes.

Creating a List of Desired Qualities

  • Eli advises young people, especially women, to create a list of desired qualities in a partner and stick to it.
  • Eli shares his personal experience of only dating women who were college educated, as it was important to him.
  • Eli emphasizes the importance of shared spiritual beliefs in a relationship, suggesting that people should not end up with someone who has opposing beliefs.
  • Eli advises people to look for these qualities early in a relationship and to leave if they are not present within the first three months.

The Role of the Frontal Lobe

  • Eli compares the struggle to overcome addiction to the struggle to overcome unhealthy relationship patterns.
  • Eli explains that the frontal lobe should be in charge, not the unconscious mind or body, to avoid crashing and burning.
  • Eli warns that children of dysfunctional relationships often repeat the same patterns in their own relationships.
  • Eli encourages people to seek help to become aware of their unconscious projections and to work on healing their childhood wounds.

The Power of Psychodrama

  • Eli advocates for psychodrama work to heal childhood wounds and prevent repeating negative patterns in relationships.
  • Eli shares his personal experience of doing psychodrama work for seven years to avoid falling back into old patterns.
  • Eli describes psychodrama as a powerful tool for healing and personal growth.
  • Eli encourages people to seek out psychodrama work to improve their relationships and overall well-being.

Video Transcript

Hola Happy Super Bowl. Sunday, go chiefs. I don’t care who wins. I just want a good game. But I I am leaning toward the chiefs. The The reason why I tell people, you know, when I talk about the end times, Rabbi Joel taught us that what he said is, in the end times, you’re going to see things you never thought you were going to see. And I’m going to explain that in a second. So nobody’s ever won three consecutive Super Bowls, so if the Chiefs win, that could be some end time stuff at a very profane level. But I was talking to a couple of clients on Wednesday, and I was explaining why everything has to be played out in our reality. And the husband had an interesting comment. I don’t know a lot about computers, but he said, when there’s a virus in your computer, when you put the whatever you put in the computer and runs all your programs, looking for the virus that makes sense, and then eliminates it, cuts it off. Well, that’s exactly what’s happening in our reality. Everything has to be played out to its end to make sure there’s no virus in there. The virus is related to the fall of Adam, the cosmic virus came in. So when we’re seeing the crazy stuff we’re seeing in the world, one of my pet ones is the furries for kids going to school, dresses dogs or Kitties and stuff like that. Now you can scratch your head, like many people, and say, What the heck’s going on, but if you understand everything has to be played out. You’re going to be seeing things you never thought you see. You know, I’m 73, years old, and I’ve seen stuff in the last 1015, years. I just scratched my head and laugh. My My perspective is, I’m like watching a movie because I know what’s coming. So today’s talk I wanted to get into. I wrote a chapter a couple of months ago about projecting in relationships, and I had several people clients in this week talking about these bad relationships they’re in, and as I unravel their stories and their history, especially in your childhood, you can almost bet whatever you want if you see the childhood, you’re going to know who they marry, who they end up with, because they didn’t heal the wounds from their childhood. For instance, if you’ve got daddy issues, whether you’re a male or female, but let’s say a woman and Daddy didn’t love you. Give you the attention you needed, made you feel worthwhile. You’ll see a guy somewhere that appears to be able to do that you’re so hungry to get that you miss all the red flags and the red carpets. And up. I was talking to a lady Friday, and she was explaining this, when she first saw her husband to be I was in a bar or something, I think she said that was the guy. She had to meet him, so she would always go to this bar, hoping he’d be there. And eventually they connected. And history happen? They got married, and then a disaster came about because he wasn’t who she thought he was, because she was projecting. You know, we don’t see reality as it is. We see it as we want it to be. And you know, a lot of people have trouble with this. Okay, see it. You guys know you you have friends of relatives, you know they’re in relationships, and you’re like, What are you doing? But they can’t see it because they’re projecting they’re wanting to heal their wounds from their childhood in these adult relationships. And let me tell you, after 44 years, it don’t work. It just doesn’t see. I always I’ve got a pet sayings. If I was the president, everybody would get two years of good psychotherapy, healing work from 18 to 20 before they could get married in this country, and, more importantly, have children, because it’s our children that pay the price for your bad choice. Ultimately, I mean, you’re going to pay too obviously, but the kids don’t have a choice. They’re stuck in there. And you don’t know how many times I’ve seen people mimic what they saw growing up with their mom and dad, disgusting, horrible, traumatic, but there they want like a moth going into that flame because they didn’t even know they were doing it. This is how the subconscious and unconscious mind works, folks. It wants what it wants. And you know my rabbi, Joe Dispenza. Who’s now Jewish, wrote a book called Breaking the Habit of being yourself, and he does a wonderful job in that book explaining how this all works and why we keep falling for it. So I’ve been on a kick with my young clients lately, especially the ladies, if they’re out there dating, I said, come up with a list of what you want in a man or a guy with a woman, and stick to it, because if you don’t have that map, you’re going to let the unconscious map crash your car your life. So you know, one of the things for me and no harm, no foul. Here, when I was dating a lot, when I was younger, I was college educated, I would not date women who were not college educated for long. Okay, because that was important to me. That’s part of my value system, because going to college, getting a degree, changes you in many ways, and I thought that was important. Another one is spiritual beliefs. If you have certain spiritual beliefs, don’t end up with an atheist if you believe in God or Hashem or whatever you believe in. So if you come up with a list, and then when, so basically, when you’re on your dates, you’re searching for these qualities, and if they don’t show up within the first three months, they aincoming. You know, people hang in there. 12 years, 15 years, 30 years. I got a lady I was talking to recently, and she’s been married for a long time, and she still fantasizes about he’s going to come around and be the man she needs. And I just laugh, and I don’t do that disrespectfully, but it’s like, come on, after all these years, 30 plus years, what do you think it’s hiding? Cuz she’s neat, and I know this woman’s history, she had big issues with her daddy, so she’s trying to fix her daddy wounds in this relationship, get what her dad was incapable of giving her. So what I’m suggesting to you know, to help the kids, to help yourself, do your work before you really go out there dating. Know what you’re susceptible to, what your moth is going to want to fly into and then don’t do it, and it’s hard, you know, I tell people, when I got sober from cocaine, my body and I were in Mortal Kombat for a year because it wanted the dopamine from the coke. But this frontal lobe had to be stronger. This is what should be driving your bus, not your unconscious mind, not your body, because I promise you, you will crash and burn and you ain’t going to like it. Okay? And then when there’s kids involved, through no fault of their own, they pay the price. And guess what? When they go out there dating, they’re going to be looking for something to mimic the marriage they saw with mommy and daddy. And on and on it goes. So my suggestion, I don’t care what age you are, if you’re 40 and you’re tired of the crap you’ve been dealing with, get the help you need to become aware of what your projector is projecting, what it needs to see, not what you have to see or want to see. You know, it’s like, like the lady that met the guy in the bar, and I talked when I talked to her about it, she saw him with traits of him that were not there, and now she’s scratching her head and all ticked off at herself at that. But I said, lesson learned. Let’s work on this so you don’t have to do it again if she gets out of that relationship. Because, you know Joe in that in that book, breaking the habit change is almost impossible. Wow. You know there’s a Torah riddle Rabbi Joel taught us. He said, Can God create a rock he cannot lift? Know what he’s doing it anyway, that’s changed. That’s how hard it is. Alright. Enjoy your day. Hopefully you’ll think about some of what I said. And, you know, track us down if you really want to work on this. Or, you know, depending on where you live, find somebody that can help you figure out what your unconscious mind is craving. You can change it. I retrain my body not to want cocaine. You know, I haven’t thought about drugs, and I don’t know I’ve been sober almost well. Coming up on 38 years, I don’t think about that anymore. I don’t need it, okay? Because this isn’t driving my bus anymore. The cravings, the unconscious desires, my frontal lobes are in charge most of the time. Alright, enjoy the Super Bowl. Enjoy the commercials, the food if you’re going to meet people and enjoy the decent winter day we have here at Northwest Indiana. And get a hold of us if you’re local at Northwest Indiana and you want to start working on this, this is why I’m such an advocate. It for psychodrama work, because you could heal stuff from your childhood with that work and then not be susceptible to picking it again and again. It’s really powerful work, guys, if you haven’t done it, you know, I’ve said this many times, when I got sober, I did that work for seven years straight because I didn’t want to fall back into the old patterns, and I have it soaring like a rocket ship, but I had to get rid of the junk, or the mud, as I call it. Okay. Love you guys. God bless. Bye. Bye.

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