The 3 words a man wants to hear his woman say!

Chapter 49, three words, masculine essence, feminine essence, David Deida, superior man, admiration, mentoring, relationship dynamics, cycle drama workshop, parts party, shadow work, authentic self, personal growth, self-worth.

Eli discusses the importance of mutual admiration in relationships, emphasizing that women should express admiration for their men, while men should strive to be admirable. He references David Deida’s book “The Way of the Superior Man” to explain the balance between masculine and feminine essences. Eli highlights the need for proper mentoring and self-healing for men to become superior. He also mentions an upcoming workshop on March 9, which includes a parts party for couples, shadow work, and regular cycle drama. Eli encourages participants to follow him on Facebook for updates and insights.

Chapter 49: The Three Words a Man Needs to Hear

• Eli introduces Chapter 49, focusing on the three words a man needs to hear from his woman: “I admire you.”
• Eli emphasizes the importance of a woman admiring her man, as it boosts his self-worth and confidence.
• He explains that a man feels strong and seen when admired, which is crucial for his masculine essence.
• Eli mentions that if a woman does not admire her man, she may express her dissatisfaction through moods and shame.

Understanding the Masculine and Feminine Essences

• Eli discusses the importance of understanding the masculine and feminine essences, referencing David Deida’s book, “The Way of the Superior Man.”
• He explains that a real man is in touch with his feminine side, which does not mean he is gay but rather balanced.
• Eli shares an example of a young woman who broke up with her boyfriend because she learned to look for the right qualities in a partner.
• He stresses that a man needs to be reliable and not forget his commitments, as forgetfulness can erode a woman’s trust and respect.

The Role of Admiration in Relationships

• Eli elaborates on why a man needs to hear “I admire you” from his woman, as it validates his masculine essence.
• He mentions that if a woman does not admire her man, she may feel compelled to take on a more masculine role, which can lead to dissatisfaction.
• Eli shares a story about a woman in a rough marriage where she had to be the masculine figure, losing respect and safety in the process.
• He emphasizes the importance of balance between the masculine and feminine essences in a relationship.

The Importance of Reliability and Respect

• Eli highlights that a man needs to be reliable and follow through on his commitments to earn his woman’s respect and trust.
• He shares a story about a woman who had a rough marriage because her husband was too in touch with his feminine side, making her feel disrespected.
• Eli stresses that a man should aim to be admired for his discipline, confidence, and ability to handle business.
• He mentions that a woman’s admiration is crucial for a man’s self-worth and satisfaction in the relationship.

Upcoming Workshops and Events

• Eli announces an upcoming cycle drama workshop on March 9, which will include a parts party for couples, shadow work, and regular cycle drama.
• He encourages participants to volunteer and get an idea of what they can do with this work.
• Eli mentions that he will be doing a video about the parts party for couples, emphasizing the importance of authentic self-to-authentic self interactions.
• He invites participants to bring a snack and text him to confirm their attendance, promising an epic day of learning and growth.

Final Thoughts and Encouragement

• Eli concludes by encouraging participants to follow him on Facebook for updates and insights.
• He expresses his love and blessings for the participants, wishing them a happy Tuesday.
• Eli reminds participants to watch for Chapter 49 on his Facebook page and website.
• He emphasizes the importance of the upcoming workshop and the benefits it will bring to participants’ relationships and personal growth.

Hola, happy Tuesday. How are you guys? So I started working on Chapter 49 yay. Can’t wait to see what 50 is going to be. So chapter 48 I talked about was what the three words every woman wants to say about her man, that’s my man. Because when a woman can say that she knows she’s proud of her man, she’s got the right guy. So today we’re going to talk about and that’s what chapter 49 is going to be on. What are the three words A man needs to hear from his woman. And let me explain it before I tell you what that is. Yesterday, I was had some time at the office, and I was going through some I got a lot of handouts. I’m a handout freak. Like to give people stuff to read, educate them, as I say, I’m more of an educator than a therapist. And I found these two things I had written years ago based on David data’s book, the way the Superior Man, which is probably my favorite book for understanding the masculine and feminine, and I had all these criterias for the masculine and then the feminine and what you should expect from each essence. Because I have Wendy in here, and I have Tom in here, and we work together as a threesome. And then there’s my my real Eli self, my soul. And if we don’t heal ourselves, number one, as men, and we don’t get proper mentoring, we never become the men we’re meant to be, and we’re all meant to be superior men, but we don’t get the help to do that. You know, look at what’s going on in the world, especially with the younger men and that, and how there are good ones, I get that, but they’re just not being properly mentored, and they don’t know what to be. So a real man is in touch with his feminine side. That doesn’t mean we’re gay or anything like that. God made God made us in His image. And God’s image, kabbalistically, is masculine and feminine. The feminine is called the Shekinah, and that’s what’s in this world. But God has a masculine side too, and the goal is to keep it balanced and so often. And I was just talking to a young lady that wants to make an appointment. She’s only 21 thank god she’s young, and she broke up with her boyfriend after four months because I taught her what she should be looking for. Don’t be a settler. I’m tired of that. Okay, you women are amazing. You know your feminine is magical. Every man wants to see his woman’s feminine side come out, not her masculine side. Okay, she’s there, you know, she’s going to help out, be disciplined in that. But we all want to connect with our feminine in here and the feminine out there, because then we have a friendship, a partnership. Now, the guys could be there to work in masculine on masculine, but you feel, you start to feel really lonely in the world if you’re not connecting to the your wife’s or your girlfriend’s feminine. The problem is, if you’re in a relationship and you’re a woman, has to use her masculine more and more and more, as David data explains, she will no longer trust you or respect you or feel safe with you because she doesn’t feel safe, to let down her guard. See the feminine wants to surrender to the masculine, and that doesn’t mean be submissive. She just wants to be the feminine. Not think, not plan, not control things, not worry about the garbage being taken out. Did you pay the bills? Etcetera, etcetera. And when I told my brother Tim about this chapter, the other words that we never, ever want to say to our woman is, I forgot. That just pisses them off. They don’t want to hear that. I forgot. What are you 10? Get it. So that’s part of being the masculine. The masculine is as good as his word. If I say I’m going to do something for you, book it, Daniel, you don’t have to ever think about it again, and I’m going to do it in a timely manner. Unfortunately, there’s so many boys out there that haven’t been initiated into manhood that they forget they don’t do it, and then she can’t rely on him, and then what will happen is she turns into stone. I had a lady in the office yesterday, been in a rough marriage, and her husband is he’s really in touch with this feminine, but almost too much, and she has to be the masculine. And she’s lost respect in a lot of ways form, which is tragic to me, because if she doesn’t respect us, if she doesn’t feel safe with us. Us if she can’t brag about us to her friends, that’s miserable. Who the heck wants that in your life? Okay? It’s a balance between all the essences guys, and this is something feels like my swan song as I’m getting older. You know, wanting to share some of this wisdom, and I recommend David data’s book, the way the Superior Man to everybody. So it’s a paperback, I think it’s like 15 bucks on Amazon, and that men should read it to understand what a masculine is, and then women should read it to understand what the masculine looks like, and then understand her feminine, because he’s he’s. The book is written about the masculine and feminine in both, essence, both genders. Okay, Wendy likes tie dyes. As you can see, she likes pink, that’s her favorite color. Okay, so she picks out my clothes every morning I’m consciously using it. That’s what Carl Young says. If you’re not conscious of the unconscious, it comes out, but through the back door, and you don’t want that because she can drive your bus into the wall. So what are the three words all of us men want to hear from our woman, outer woman and inner woman. Okay, what is what do we want to hear from her the most the woman want to say that’s my man. What we need to hear is, I admire you. The masculine likes to be admired, to be seen. Because when somebody admires me, I can feel it inside. I feel strong. I feel just seen. Is the best word I can do. I admire you for your discipline, your confidence, your ability to take care of business, your ability to mitigate your feelings and not act like an a hole all the time, not let my anger control me and things like that. So we want that from our woman, this one and the one on the outside, because if Wendy doesn’t admire me, I’m in trouble, because she’s going to let me know it. Give me moods, give me some shame, give me some embarrassment. So every day when I’m out in the world, I’m dating her, I want her to admire me. And for you guys out there, if you’re not getting that from your woman, you ain’t, you ain’t doing the job the right way. Guys, it’s just that simple, no harm, no foul. You can learn this, especially the younger people, the older guys, it’s, it’s iffy, okay, because they’ve learned so many patterns that they think they’re right in but again, nobody taught us this. You know, that’s why I wrote chapter 48 for the women. A woman need besides the healing work, because your unconscious will pick the loser every time if you’re not careful. But the woman needs a map and a model to find the right guy, okay? And if she doesn’t have that, she goes off course and anybody could fit in. I had a lady in this morning. She’s been doing the dating scene for over a year now, and boy, has that been rough on her. She’s so disappointed, just bothered because of all these idiots the way they handle things, talk to her, you know, sexual stuff and that. And she’s a lady, okay? She wants to be treated like a lady. And I was telling her about this today, and she said, I can honestly say most of these guys I’ve had contact with or dated I did not admire them. That’s what we want, that that raises our self worth. You know what a woman says and a guy too? You know we I like to hear from men. I admire you for what you do and all that, but we especially need it for the feminine, cuz if you’re not getting it, she’s going to feel bad. Because what is she going to say if I don’t admire you, what I hate you? You disgust me. The lady that was in yesterday when she was talking about her husband, you could see the look on her face like sniffing crap. Yeah. Who wants that from a woman? I want her to smile and say, You’re my man and I admire you. Alright, so chew on that. March 9 is coming up. We’re doing a cycle drama workshop with three pieces to it. Number one, we’re doing something brand new a parts party for a couple that’s going to do the work. Number two, we’re going to do another shadow work, cycle drama. And number three, we’re going to do a regular cycle drama. So if you haven’t seen cycle drama work and you want to get initiated into it and see some of the things you can do with it. And I’m real creative that comes from Wendy. She’s my creative side the right brain, but that way, if you guys come and volunteer, you can get an idea of what you can do with this amazing work, especially the parts party for a couple because I’ve never done that, and I’ve got some really good ideas about that, and I’ll be doing a video about this in the very near future, because you don’t want. Your parts to your personality in the relationship taken over. You want to do it from authentic self to authentic self. So March 9, 945 get there, bring a snack, text me, let me know you’re coming. More than merrier, you know, but it’s going to be epic day. I’m I’m already lathered up at three. Three to have three weeks away, I guess so. Well, we want to see you. Alright. God bless enjoy your Tuesday and watch for Chapter 49 on the ELI page on Facebook. And again, if you’re following the website, follow Eli on Facebook so you can see some of the stuff I post on there. Okay, I love you guys. God bless you. You.