Video Summary Keywords
mentoring, masculine essence, feminine essence, balanced man, emotional life, woman speak, shadow work, cycle drama, couples workshop, true self, energy, calm, peaceful, nurturing, strength
Video Summary
Eli discusses the concept of a balanced man, emphasizing the importance of both masculine and feminine essences. He notes that many women struggle to say “That’s my man” because their partners lack maturity and mentoring. Eli highlights that a true man should make his partner feel safe, anticipate needs, follow through on promises, and be affectionate. He shares insights from his therapy practice, where he helps men understand “woman speak” and the emotional nuances women often express. Eli also promotes his upcoming workshop on May 9, which will include shadow work and a couples’ parts party, aiming to help participants unleash repressed parts and improve their energy and calmness.
Introduction and Context Setting
- Eli greets the audience and mentions the weather conditions in the Midwest, advising them to be safe.
- Eli introduces the topic of his new chapter titled “What does a woman want to say about her man?” and shares that the common response is “That’s my man.”
- Eli explains that he has been in therapy for 44.5 years and notes that many women cannot say “That’s my man” because their partners are not being men but boys.
- Eli emphasizes the importance of men being in their masculine essence while also tapping into their feminine essence, which he refers to as being balanced men.
The Role of Mentoring in Masculinity
- Eli discusses the significance of having healthy mentors besides one’s father, as fathers are often unreliable.
- He mentions that mentors can include coaches, boy scout leaders, priests, rabbis, and others who can hold men accountable and guide them into manhood.
- Eli highlights that the women he works with want to say “That’s my man” with pride and respect, indicating that the man is trustworthy and reliable.
- He shares a story about his brother, who is balanced and respected by his sister-in-law’s friends, who often express a desire to have a man like him.
Characteristics of a Balanced Man
- Eli outlines the qualities that make a man attractive to women, such as making them feel safe, being affectionate, and being emotionally aware.
- He explains that men who are not in touch with their feminine essence only see women from a logical, left-brain perspective.
- Eli advises men to learn “woman speak” to understand their partners better, as women often communicate indirectly through emotions.
- He shares an example of a couple he worked with, where the wife tested the husband to feel his strength, and the husband initially misunderstood her intentions.
Challenges in Modern Relationships
- Eli discusses how modern women often have to take on masculine roles in relationships where men are not fulfilling their responsibilities.
- He shares a story about a couple he recently worked with, where the wife could say “That’s my man” because the husband followed through on his commitments.
- Eli explains that women are more nurturing and caring by nature, and they prefer men to step in and handle tasks that require strength and decisiveness.
- He emphasizes that women do not want to play the masculine role all the time and prefer men to take on their responsibilities.
Upcoming Workshops and Personal Reflections
- Eli announces an upcoming workshop on May 9, which will include a couples’ parts party, a regular cycle drama, and shadow work.
- He invites interested individuals to contact him for more information and to learn about these workshops.
- Eli reflects on the positive feedback he received from participants in a recent shadow work session, who reported feeling more energetic and calm.
- He concludes the video by wishing the audience a good day, expressing his support for the Kansas City Chiefs, and teasing the upcoming new chapter on his Facebook page.
Video Transcript
Hola, happy Thursday. If you’re kind of in the Midwest, hope you’re ice skating today. I went out to clean my car off this morning. I thought, Damn, I needed skates, but be safe out there. It’s, it’s, it’s getting better. It’s warming up. But God, this morning was treacherous. Okay, got a question I put I’m writing a new chapter. And the title of the chapter is, what does a woman what three words does a woman want to say about her man? And some people on Facebook got back to me, I love you and all that. No, you know what she wants to say? That’s my man. You know, I have been doing therapy for 44 and a half years now, and I run into very few women that can say that about their man, because he’s not being a man. He’s been a boy. So you get that they should be saying, That’s my boy, okay, like it’s her kid or something. But what I’ve noticed over the years is when the men aren’t being men, and when I say a man, I mean he’s in his masculine essence, but he’s also tapped into his feminine essence, so he’s a balanced man, plus he’s had proper mentoring. Because you know what Tim and I teach is to become a real man, you need healthy mentors besides your father, because that’s always iffy. The dads we get, but if you get some mentoring along the way, three or four, they’re going to hold you accountable, bring you into manhood, straighten your butt out a little bit okay, like it could be a coach, it could be a boy scout leader, a priest, whatever it is, you know, a rabbi in that I’ve had a bunch of these mentors, but very few women that I work with are able to say that honestly. They want to say it with pride. They want to say it with respect for him. You know, I’ll tell you a quick story. My brother’s pretty balanced, okay? And when my sister in law, Jeannie, goes out with her female friends, and she’s talking about my brother to them, You know what, they usually say, I want one because they don’t have that at home. You know, what a man needs to do is make his woman feel safe. He anticipates. He follows through. He does what he says he’s going to do. He’s affectionate. He’s tapped into his emotional life. Okay for us as men. If we’re not tapped into our feminine essence, we really can’t see her from that side. We only see her from the male side, the left brain. But if we’re really balanced, a woman doesn’t always say what she means. Now when the man, masculine side tries to read the tea leaves. He’s reading it logically. When I work with couples, I show the show the guys. You gotta learn woman speak. You gotta know what’s going on with your woman. When she says, x, what is she really saying? Okay? And that doesn’t mean women don’t, aren’t direct and don’t say what they mean, okay, but sometimes it’s, it’s tied into emotions and that okay? I had a couple recently I was working with, and the wife told the husband to go do something. Well, I would have bet my bottom dollar. She didn’t mean that she was testing him. And see a lot of times the feminine test the masculine, okay? Cuz she wants to feel our strength, the man’s strength. You know what? The woman has to get out there and do all the dirty work with the kids or with the neighbors or at work in that why does she need you? You know, you’re just like a tick or something, or a Klingon. So I had a couple in yesterday, and I’ve used that, that’s my man a lot. And they were sitting there, and I told him I was writing a new chapter, and I told him what the title was. Well, the husband went blank. The wife knew right away, and she said it, that’s my man. And in their case, she doesn’t get to say that a lot, because he doesn’t follow through. He doesn’t stick with things. He doesn’t take care of his body, you know, the things he needs to do. So then the woman has to play the masculine. And they’ll do that sometimes, but most women are more feminine oriented, so they can play the guy sometimes, but they don’t want to do that all the time. You know, if you’re having trouble with the kids, some neighbors, things like that, the the man has to step in because the mom is nurturing, she’s caring, she just want to jump into that stuff. Does that kind of make sense? So I wanted to do this short little video just to introduce those three words, because I. It on My Eli page on Facebook, and that just to know where I’m coming from with this. Another thing, we had an amazing cycle drama. Last Sunday, we did three shadow works, and oh my god, were they epic. And I’ve gotten feedback from two of the people that worked already, and they both said they have more energy because they’re not repressing those parts anymore. And the one lady said she feels really calm and peaceful because see, when you’re out in the world and you’re trying to hide who you are, the things you don’t like about yourself, that takes work. It’s stressful when you can just go out there and be your true self, life gets easier. So we’re going to be doing our next workshop May 9, not May I wish it was May March 9. So as I said in the last video, we’re going to do a couples parts party. Then we’re going to do a regular cycle drama, and then I’m looking for a third person who wants to do some shadow work. I always like to introduce that at the workshops. So if any of you are out there and you want to learn about this and try it. Get a hold of me and we can talk, and I can help you identify those parts. Alright, have a good day. Go, go chiefs. I don’t know who’s ever going to win the Super Bowl. I know people go crazy with that. And watch for the new chapter coming any minute. God bless. Bye. Bye. You.