Don’t let them steal your light bulbs!

light bulbs, soul essence, psycho drama, integrity, relationships, soul retrieval, consequences, tolerance, personal power, childhood experiences, standing up, Mel Robbins, self-respect, visual metaphor, Nelson Mandela

Eli discusses the concept of “light bulbs” representing one’s essence or soul, which can be diminished in relationships when individuals compromise their integrity. In a psycho drama class, participants acted out scenarios where one partner took away the other’s light bulbs, symbolizing the loss of personal essence. Eli emphasizes the importance of maintaining integrity and using the word “no” to protect one’s light. He shares personal anecdotes and quotes, including Nelson Mandela and Victor Frankl, to highlight the need for individuals to stand up for themselves and not tolerate being diminished. Eli advocates for soul retrieval as a method to regain lost essence and encourages others to hold onto their light.

Psycho Drama Class and Light Metaphor

• Eli introduces the concept of relationships stealing one’s light or spark, using a metaphor of light bulbs.
• In a psycho drama class, a lady started with 10 light bulbs representing her soul essence, which she had to give to her partner.
• The exercise demonstrated how relationships can drain one’s light, leading to a symbolic “death” in the coffin.
• The lady had to reclaim her light by battling her partner, symbolizing the struggle to regain her essence.

Integrity and Dimming of Light

• Eli’s sister-in-law asked if someone can steal your light without your permission, leading Eli to ponder on the topic.
• Eli believes that dimming one’s light is tied to integrity and soul essence, as doing things against one’s purpose diminishes it.
• Eli discusses how people often settle in relationships rather than standing up for themselves, leading to a loss of spark and essence.
• Eli shares a personal example of avoiding a family event due to disrespect, emphasizing the importance of integrity.

Childhood and Adult Patterns

• Eli reflects on how childhood experiences shape adult behavior, often leading to a lack of spark and essence.
• Eli describes seeing many people without spark or essence, comparing them to mannequins.
• Eli shares a quote from a therapist about adult living, emphasizing the importance of doing what one wants while accepting consequences.
• Eli encourages people to stop tolerating things they don’t want, using examples of both men and women in relationships.

Soul Retrieval and Power

• Eli discusses the concept of soul retrieval as a way to regain one’s spark and essence.
• Eli explains that many people learn to give away their power as children, leading to a pattern of diminished light in adulthood.
• Eli shares a personal story about a priest flirting with her, illustrating how she learned to stand up for herself.
• Eli emphasizes the importance of saying no and standing up for one’s boundaries, using examples from both personal and professional life.

Historical and Personal Reflections

• Eli reflects on historical events, such as Nazi Germany, where people tolerated inequities instead of standing up for themselves.
• Eli quotes Nelson Mandela about not hiding one’s light, emphasizing the need for everyone to shine their essence.
• Eli discusses the importance of standing up for what one believes in, even if it means facing consequences.
• Eli shares a story about Victor Franco, a Jew in Auschwitz, who wrote about the importance of choice in how one reacts to situations.

Final Thoughts and Encouragement

• Eli concludes by encouraging people to hold onto their light bulbs and not let others steal them.
• Eli recommends Mel Robbins’ book “Let Them” for further insight on standing up for oneself.
• Eli emphasizes the importance of integrity and saying no when necessary.
• Eli ends with a motivational message, encouraging everyone to be true to themselves and not tolerate things they don’t want.

Hola, happy Tuesday, how are you guys? I’ve been buzzing ever since Sunday, and I wanted to share what we did at the psycho drama class. What I’ve learned over the years is we’re all given a certain amount of light or spark or soul essence. And what happens, especially in relationships, somebody steals our light. Okay? And so the psycho drama class, what we did, we had a lady working, and we started her out with 10 bulbs on her light strand, and they were flickering like little flames. Are really cute. Well, she came up with 10 major regrets she has had in her relationship, and one by one, she had to take a bulb out of her strand and put it in her partner’s strand. And before you knew it. She was out of bulbs, and she got in the coffin. Now what we put in the coffin was somebody playing her soul essence. We didn’t actually put the client in the coffin. And then what she had to do is figure out, how did she get her light back? And what she did is she went up to her partner had to battle him a little bit because he wasn’t giving up her light. And one by one, she’s got each ball back, put it in hers, her soul essence came back to life, resurrected, and her partner got put in the coffin. So what am I talking about? We went to lunch after the workshop, and my sister in law asked a really good question, and I’ve been pondering it. That’s why I want to do this talk today. And she said, can somebody steal your light without your permission? And I’m pretty sure the answer is no. For instance, every time you do what you shouldn’t do, you go against who you are, your essence, your purpose, things like that, you’re dimming your light little bit, little bit. Now, part of that is tied to our integrity, I think, because I believe when we lose our integrity, we lost our soul. Another word for spark your soul, essence, right? And so think of things that we do that we really don’t want to do, but we’re too afraid to say anything about it. We don’t want to upset the person. We don’t deal with this stuff. We don’t want to leave so we just settle. And one by one, your life goes away making sense. And what happens is, when they’re filled up, a lot of times they leave you because, you know, I got your light, I gotta get somebody else’s light. And I’ve seen this in relationships and marriages for years. You know, recently, I did not attend a family event that I was invited to because the person hosting it had disrespected me and my brother and our business and that. And it’s like, I imagine being there and I wanted to throw up, because by me showing up, I would be telling that person it was okay, what they did, okay. And no, no. And like Mel Robbins says in a let them book, let them be them, but Let you be you. And if you think about this in your life, a lot of times, it’s in our childhood, we we lose a lot of our spark because we do things we don’t want to do, put up with stuff, have to tolerate stuff in that and then when we become adults, we carry on the same pattern, because the body gets used to that way of being. And you look around in the world as I do, and I see a lot of eeyores out there, people walking around, they look like mannequins. You know, there’s no spark, there’s no essence, there’s no joy. And I was talking to a lady at our office yesterday, and she, she, she had, she had attended the workshop, and I told her a quote I hear, heard years ago from one of my first therapist, and he said, adult living looks like this. You don’t do anything you don’t want to do, and you can do anything you want to do, as long as you’re willing to deal with the consequences. Because there’s always going to be consequences somewhere, alright, big or small, but that’s what we want to do. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. You know, you ladies out there that are like having sex when you don’t want to tolerating stuff that you don’t want to quit doing that. New men out there, the same thing. Quit tolerating the bullshit. And it was funny, on Sunday, we had a bunch of volunteers. We were really grateful for that. And there was a bunch of guys standing in back of the room, and I knew all of them and their issues, and I think there were five or six of them. And. All of them were either married or together with somebody who stole their light. And it doesn’t happen overnight. One Bob, another Bob, another Bob, however many Bobs you got in that soul of yours, and they gradually take them away. And that’s it. So every time you do what you don’t want to do, just imagine you’re handing a ball away, whether it’s big or small. And my brother and I were talking about something. So when a little kid is it being abused in some way, and they just let it happen, they don’t say anything. He said, is the person that’s doing the abusing, stealing their light. And I said, even though they’re children, they still have the ability to say, No, I don’t like this. I don’t want to do it. Now. It’s really scary and hard for kids to do that, but the kid is going along with it because they’re they don’t know what to do. You know, this is their let’s say they’re being molested by their grandpa or their dad or their brother. What do you do? You just lay there. But if you kick and scream, say, No, this is wrong. You keep your light intact. And one of the things we ended the workshop with is soul retrieval. That’s one way to get your spark back, because Soul Retrieval is retrieving your soul essence, okay, and we can get the parts of you that were taken away or that left to make you feel more full and more whole. So that’s a really cool shamanic technique to get that back. Because a lot of people learn to give their balls away when they’re young, and then when they become adults, that pattern just goes on and on and on because they’re missing the power that they lost as kids. Well, when you bring all that power back, nobody puts baby in the corner, right? And I’ve gone through this myself in life, some of the stuff I put up earlier than as a kid or young adult in that I remember there was a priest. I For a minute I was toying with the priesthood, okay? And I went up to the with this priest of Milwaukee. I had to drive him up there. And on the way up there, that son of a gun was flirting with me, trying to hit on me. Now, I didn’t hit him. I wanted to my Cal city side. Wanted to come out, but I just totally I spent the night because it was late and I don’t want to drive back in that traffic. But I locked my bedroom door, sealed it up in that and the next day, he came up to me. He was terrified that I was going to tattle on him. And the reason I didn’t do that is because getting into that whole legal thing and that I just don’t want to deal with that. Maybe I should have, you know, I don’t know. I don’t have a lot of regrets, but maybe I should have, but I didn’t put up with it. Okay, that’s just one example. Some self we do. I learned early. If you know, like Mike Ditka says, if you put up with a lot of crap in life, you’re going to get a lot of crap. And now what we did with the psychodrama on Sunday is showed people metaphorically a visual. What really happens your strand of lights goes dim, and now you’re just walking around like a zombie. And, God, I see that so much, and we gotta stop it, because Nelson Mandela, one I read a poem of his years ago, but there’s a line in there. I really I memorized. I loved it. You do not have the right to hide your light under a bushel basket. The world needs all of our lights, all of our sparklerness, all of our essence. And that’s partly what I see wrong with this world today, is people just aren’t doing that. Okay. You know, like in America, there’s stuff we go through and that the stuff we tolerate instead of fighting for, what we believe in, believe in, stand up for yourself. Look what would have happened in Nazi Germany if the people could have stood up to the inequities and the wrongness of what was going on. It’s hard. I get that, you know, I tell people, if you’re willing to die for what you believe in, you’re free here, because what else can they take? Okay? And my buddy Victor Franco was a Jew in Auschwitz, and he talks about it in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, and he said, The only thing they can’t take away from you, besides your life, is how you choose to react to a situation. And if you’re putting up with stuff, you’re making a choice. But what the scary thing is that nobody tells us when we’re young is you’re losing your bulbs here, over there, over there, and all of a sudden you’re bulbless. You’re lightless. So we will probably be offering more of these psycho dramas. My brother and I, we, you know, Tim and I always consort to talk about stuff. So it wasn’t. Amazing visual for the lady working, and she was just blown away by what she did to herself in that and fortunately, she’s out of that relationship, so she’s free. But the problem is, don’t ever do it again. Okay, when you don’t want to do something, just use the N word no. Okay, no, I’m not comfortable. I don’t want to do that. Like that family event I didn’t go to. I couldn’t do it. My integrity would have suffered. It would have been like kryptonite to my soul. And I said, Nope, I’m not doing that. Okay? Or will there be consequences? Probably. But oh well, you gotta do you like Mel Robbins says, Let them do them, but then you do you. And if you guys haven’t read her book, let them. I highly, highly recommend it. Dear friend of mine brought me a copy on Sunday because she had loaned me her copy, and I read it quickly and I wanted to reread it. So Alright, hang on to your light bulbs. Don’t let them. Don’t let them. Steal them. God bless you guys. You.