The Eli Effect Podcast #3

Eli Effect, soul print, mentorship, twin brother, personal growth, survival mode, inner guidance, healing, life purpose, Joe Dispenza

Eli’s life path shows how personal essence and early challenges shape a transformative journey. Navigating a difficult upbringing with the help of his twin brother, he learned to trust an inner guiding force to transcend survival mode. Key realizations and supportive mentors ultimately empowered him to embrace his unique purpose and help others discover theirs.

Sibling Support and Early Survival

• Growing up in an unsafe home environment with an alcoholic father placed Eli in survival mode early in life.
• Having an identical twin brother, Tim, provided Eli with a sense of protection and constant support.
• Despite their identical upbringing, Eli and Tim developed distinct paths and individual soul prints.

Understanding the Soul Print

• The Eli Effect represents an internal force or soul-level guidance that directs a person toward their true purpose.
• Family dysfunction can derail people from their goals, requiring intentional healing to get back on track.
• Aligning with one’s path requires acknowledging past damage and trusting an inner compass over physical conditioning.

The Role of Mentorship

• A chance encounter with a mail route customer, Mr. Conway, served as Eli’s first key mentorship experience.
• Effective mentors identify potential in individuals before they are able to recognize it themselves.
• Encouragement from Mr. Conway pushed Eli to get a real estate license and eventually pursue higher education.

Pivoting Toward Purpose

• Success came from taking bold leaps, such as walking away from past careers and moving to new environments.
• Higher education at institutions like DePaul and Loyola awakened Eli’s passion for learning and helping others.
• Overcoming societal programming allows individuals to reconnect with their original essence.

Sharing the Journey

• Eli uses his personal story as a framework to help listeners identify guiding moments in their own lives.
• Weekly podcast episodes offer ongoing reflections on applying these lessons at any age.
• The ultimate goal of the work is trusting the inner voice to live out an authentic path.

Hola! Welcome to the Eli Effect Podcast. I just love this cover. My publisher did such a good job with the tie-dye. As you guys can tell, Eli’s a tie-dye guy. So, today’s podcast, I’m going to focus on Chapter 2, how the Eli Effect affected my early years, what was going on with that. And, you know, when I wrote the book, I really thought a lot about what was going on early that got me to where I ended up. And it was really fun. I call it the chess game, you know, looking at your life and see how all the pieces got moved to get you to where you want to be. And once you figure it out, life starts to go this way. So, if you haven’t read the book yet, you’ll find this out. I have an identical twin brother named Tim. I dedicated the book to him. He has always been the wind beneath my wings to support me in every way he can. And growing up, just Tim and I, we didn’t have any other siblings. I felt less alone and more protected because my home environment was not the most conducive to figuring out what your soul is here to do and all that stuff. There was a lot of survival mode going on back there growing up in that little house. But Tim made me feel protected. Somebody always had my back. I still feel that way at 75 with him and I’m sure he does too with me. But together, we did a lot of brave things. Some things, probably not so wise, some crazy things we did when we were younger and that, but together we were unstoppable. Okay. And I think what whoever organized this in my life, knew that would be the perfect setup for me to have an identical twin, even though we kind of morphed. We don’t look a lot like one another today, but except we sound a lot alike. So, the Eli effect is nothing more than a force moving us. But deep down in all these spiritual traditions I’ve studied in that, it’s the soul. It’s the soul that knows what you’re here to do. Okay. Our problem, and I’m going to explain this from my childhood, is we get so off the target. There’s a rabbi, I’m actually reading his book again, Rabbi Gaffney. It’s called Soul Print. It’s a great book. And he calls your soul like a fingerprint. It’s unique to you. And only you can live it out. I can’t do it for you. I can’t do it for me. Tim and I, even though we’re identical, grew up in the same household, our soul prints were different. Tim was here more to live the traditional life, you know, getting married, having kids, grandkids and all that. That was not in my soul to do that. I had a different path here. But together, we still supported one another. So, there were times when I would go out into the wilderness, you know, when I moved to Colorado and that, and leave him behind. But he was always there cheering me on. And he still does that. So, our unhealed family dysfunction derails us from figuring out our purpose sometimes. Now, that doesn’t mean we can’t do it later. Okay. But you got to do some healing work. Because when I was growing up, as I look back at it, you know, my dad was an alcoholic. My mom was pretty codependent. Nice lady, very loving, caring in that. Dad, good man in some ways. But the drinking and the anger and that just wasn’t safe. So, growing up, being raised in survival mode, with the unsafe environment, a lot of fear, feeling unprotected, especially when a mom, she wasn’t going to do anything because she was in survival mode herself too, dealing with my dad’s alcoholism. So, the emotional climate that they created was not conducive to actualizing our soul’s purpose. So, the question you got to ask, and I ask this, how did I beat the odds? How did I beat the odds? simply, is by listening to and trusting that force, that voice inside, that Eli effect that I call it, that thing that affected me. I trusted it. There were times guys, I was like, what am I, nuts? Okay, this is crazy. You know, I had two careers that I totally threw away. Could have done, maybe three actually, as I’m thinking about it, but it’s just to toss it away. You know, had a huge practice, threw that away and moved to Colorado. But I was trusting and listening to that little force, that voice in there saying this, this, this, because you can’t explain it, but it’s going to guide you. I had to accept first that I was damaged goods from my upbringing, different things like that, but especially the upbringing, the crazy environment, religion, society. You have to accept that first. See, how are you, how are you ever going to get sober, let’s say, if you don’t accept you got a drug problem? If you can accept that, you can move on. You know, I just did something very brave. Occasionally, I would smoke these little cigars and that, and I started that habit back in the early 2000s. Well, I was noticing, uh, it was causing some issues. So two weeks ago today, I said, done, bye-bye. And so far, so good. Okay. Cravings are there. Urges are there. But like my buddy, Joe Dispenza, who’s kind of like my, my, one of my favorite teachers now, he said, the thinking in the mind has to be stronger than the feelings in the body. Because if it’s not, you’re not going to be able to stop. So accepting we need healing. So accepting we need healing. And then trusting the soul’s GPS. Think of your soul like a GPS in your car. Your car is your body. And your GPS guides it where it’s going to go. Trying this, learning this, doing that. All the different things that come along. It’s just a matter of saying, hey, thy will be done. Whoever your thy is. I don’t let, I let you guys decide who your thy is. I’m clear on who mine is. Everybody has a different idea, but there’s something else going on here. I don’t like to name it and that, but we know there’s something else going on. And that soul print that Rabbi Gaffney talks about, we come in with that. The problem, and I don’t know, you know, whoever set all this up, this game, I guess I’ll call it. Boy, did you set up the odds again? You know, you set up the odds against us. You know, you want me to be this. And yet you put me in a horrible situation. But you know, think about, I’m very big enough, but biblical characters from the Old Testament. Look at Moses’ upbringing. Okay. And how he went, he was, you know, raised, born in a Jewish family, Hebrew family, shipped them down the little river, started to become an Egyptian, you know, second, third in charge, whatever it was. And then all of a sudden, this whole print came out. I’m sure he’s scratching his head and saying, what the heck is wrong with me? Okay. So you’ll see your soul print, your Eli effect, whatever you want to call yours early in your life, what you’re wanting to do. And as I move on in chapter two, I’ll be talking more about this. So I don’t want to get into that now. Part of me wants to, but I want to wait. But I wanted to talk about a really important thing that happens on these paths. It’s your mentor. So I’m delivering mail after I dropped out of college. I went there for two weeks and I got a job as a mailman about five months later. And for four and a half years, that’s what I did. But ironically, on one of my mail routes, once a week, there was this older man named Mr. Conway. And he was probably in his early seventies back then. He was retired in that. And we would talk sometimes and more, more often than not, he’d be talking. I’d be listening when I deliver the route. But one of the things he would do, and I love this as my mentor, he’d get up my nose and say, Tommy, why are you doing this? You’re better than this. Come on. Now, he, the mentor is going to see something in you that you don’t see. Okay. They’re going to come into your life like this guy showing up on my route and us hitting it off. Okay. That’s what are the odds on that? Okay. To do that. And I’ve had other mentors I’m going to be talking about as we go along through chapter two. But he was my first one. My dad was a mentor, but it was an iffy type of mentorship. So he did help in certain ways and became very handy, disciplined in that. But other ways, he wasn’t a great mentor. But a mentor believes in you because they see something in you, you can’t see yet. But for some reason, they can look at it. So the influence of Mr. Conway got me to get my real estate license. Okay. And I did that for about a year. Wasn’t a big fan of it. I like selling, but it wasn’t real estate. I like selling healing work, helping people become better at what they do. But it got me to go study. I got the license. I passed the test on the second try. I missed it by two on the first one. I was like, damn it. But then I studied it. I passed it. And then the next thing from there is I went to DePaul University in Chicago. I took two evening classes and something woke up inside of me. It’s like, I love learning and especially the stuff I was learning. So I credit Mr. Conway for that. Put that bug up my nose. And then shortly after I quit the post office and became a full-time student at Loyola University. Eventually graduated, undergrad and graduate. I went to some junior, a couple of junior colleges, got some early credits. The point of what I’m saying here is the Eli Effect is there guiding you in your life. When the mentors show up, stay open because they’re guided to be with us. Can I explain that to you? Heck no. But I know, and you’ll see some of the other mentors that kind of came into my life and how they really helped me. But Mr. Conway was probably my first. And I was, I think, 19, 18 and a half, 19 when I met him. And I bring his name up to this day. I’m pretty sure he’s no longer with us. So pay attention to when the opportunities come up and what the mentors bring to you. Like Mr. Conway, go to sell real estate. That was probably something he thought I was good at, maybe. I didn’t like it. But it woke that thing up in me about studying. I could pass the test. I wasn’t a knucklehead after all. Got me to go to DePaul and quit the post office and on and on it goes. You guys get my point, right? So I will be doing more podcasts. Every Monday we’ll be presenting them on the Spotify and that. I want to do this to explain what the Eli Effect is and how it can help people. But I’m going to do it by sharing my story. Okay, because that’s the only one I know the best. But my story is not a lot different than any of yours. Okay, I was just whatever, wise enough, crazy. enough, blessed enough to trust it. And I went for it. And you know, here it is 75. I’m still living this soul printout. The life that I was meant to live here. And I’ll leave you with this. I finished rereading Joe Dispenza’s book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself last week, because we had a horrible storm come through. I had no power here. And I had no internet for over a week. So I wanted to reread that. And I really hit, it hit me this time. At the end of the book, he talks about the steps to do meditation, to change yourself and your patterns and your personality and that. But he talks about the soul print in a different way. He said, we all are here to do what we’re here to do. But we get so programmed to be who they want us to be, to think the way they want us to think and on and on, dress the way they want, wear, you know, and all that stuff. He said, the work is, is to tap into that core essence of yours, the nature of who you are, your essence. So I was really loving when I was reading that last week, because I kind of forgot that from reading it a few years ago. All right. So I’ll be back next Monday and we’ll be talking more about how the Eli effect showed up in my early life. So maybe it can help you identify how it showed up in your early life and looking back and now using it, moving it forward. All right. Thanks you guys.