Stepping out of the comfort zone!

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Eli discusses the challenges of stepping out of one’s comfort zone, emphasizing the body’s subconscious memory and its impact on personal growth. He shares examples of how past traumas, such as abuse or childhood incidents, can trigger physical reactions in adulthood, making it difficult to confront uncomfortable situations. Eli explains that understanding the mind-body dynamic is crucial for retraining the body to support, rather than hinder, our actions. He advocates for small, gradual steps to expand one’s comfort zone, likening the process to learning to drive and overcoming initial fears. Eli encourages others to seek help in expanding their comfort zones and to recognize that the comfort zone is a mental construct that can limit one’s potential.

Understanding the Body-Mind Dynamic

• Eli begins by sharing his experience of attending a Taylor Swift tribute band, highlighting the energy and the impact it had on him.
• He introduces the topic of his chapter, “Why is it so hard to use the N word?” and clarifies that he means the body-mind dynamic, not a derogatory term.
• Eli reads the second paragraph of his chapter, emphasizing the body’s resistance to personal growth and the importance of understanding the body-mind interaction.
• He shares an example of a client who was paralyzed by the thought of standing up to her husband, explaining that her body released chemicals to protect her from past abuse.

Examples of Body Memory

• Eli provides examples of how past experiences can affect current reactions, such as a four-year-old being stung by a bee and later reacting to bees as an adult.
• He shares a personal anecdote about being bitten by a dog at five years old and still reacting to feeding dogs with his hand.
• Eli explains that the subconscious mind remembers everything and can create feelings from past experiences, making it difficult to go against the body’s reactions.
• He emphasizes the need for understanding the mind-body dynamics to retrain the body and make it a helpmate rather than a master.

Retraining the Body

• Eli discusses the importance of being mindful of the body’s reactions when stepping out of one’s comfort zone.
• He shares his personal experience of feeling triggered when starting to do videos but choosing to feel it and move forward despite the discomfort.
• Eli uses the analogy of skydiving to illustrate how the body tries to prevent us from taking risks but that we can choose to feel the discomfort and still enjoy the experience.
• He highlights the addictive nature of the comfort zone and how it is influenced by past experiences.

Overcoming the Comfort Zone

• Eli talks about the importance of not letting the past inform the present or future, referencing Joe Dispenza’s writings.
• He uses the example of learning to drive to illustrate how we can get used to new experiences and overcome initial anxiety.
• Eli emphasizes that the frontal lobes should drive our actions, not the body, and that the body gives us signals but should not be our master.
• He shares his belief that the comfort zone is where the soul goes to die and encourages starting small to expand one’s comfort zone.

Encouraging Others to Step Out of Their Comfort Zone

• Eli encourages his audience to start small, such as practicing stepping out of their comfort zone with small actions.
• He warns that living in a comfort zone is like living in a box and that it is all in our heads, but the body tricks us into thinking it is real.
• Eli invites anyone in the area interested in expanding their comfort zone to reach out to him for help.
• He reflects on the support he received when he was younger and encourages others to do the same for those around them.

Hola Happy Labor Day weekend, me and my buddy Steve went to the Taylor Swift tribute band this afternoon at the rock and Morales and Griffith. Wow. The energy there. I can see why people like to go to her concert. I’m still buzzing. It’s four hours later, but what a beautiful weekend so far. Look at that blue sky behind me. Uh, tree of life’s getting a little thin. I got a little sunburned today, so today I wanted to do a short video about the chapter I wrote. It’s called, Why? Why is it so hard to use the N word? No, not that other horrible N word. And I’m going to read you the second paragraph and then flesh it out a little bit, because I see this so often with people, it’s really kind of sad. So here goes the paragraph. The biggest obstacle to personal growth seems to be our bodies, which fight us every step of the way for a while. Unfortunately, most people I work with have never learned about the body mind dynamic and how they interact. As Dr Marino taught us, the body remembers what the mind forgets, and the body is the home of the subconscious mind, which can easily be triggered when we go against what is comfortable with. That’s why people hate to leave their comfort zones. My client, who needed to stand up to her husband, had no idea why she became paralyzed, but by just the thought of it, it’s because her body released chemicals, which we call feelings, to get her to stop. It zaps you. It was trying to protect her from her dad, not her husband, because she was oblivious to it all. She just kept tolerating her husband’s abuse and that that was there that was valid, but it was really about her dad’s abuse that her her body remembered. So because her husband smelled a little bit like her daddy, the body remembered and said, No, we’re not going there. Another example could be a four year old being stung by a bee. As an adult, they usually freak out in the presence of bees, because their body remembers what happened, even though they have no cognitive memory to it. A dog bit my hand when I was five years old. To this day, my body reacts when I’m feeding a dog with my hand, even though it’s a different dog. My body’s still freaking out a little bit, but I still do it. By the way, it remembers exactly what it felt like to be bitten. How does it do that? The subconscious mind remembers everything and can create feelings from the experience. Now, you can see why it’s so difficult to go against the body’s reactions at first, requires an understanding of what is occurring inside of us, which most people are unaware of. Once we understand the mind body dynamics, we can begin to retrain the body to submit to our bidding. It should be our helpmate, not our master, right? The next time you step to the edge of your body’s comfort zone, be mindful of how your body reacts. Once we get a custom to to his feedback, the chemical response, you can choose to either back off or allow yourself to feel it and then do what you wanted to do. Can it be that easy? Well, it depends on your commitment. There’s so many times I’ve gotten triggered in this body, new things. Try new things. You know, when I started doing these videos, etcetera, etcetera. But because I was blessed with a lot of this great information, I knew what was happening inside here, and I decided I wasn’t going to let it control me. I felt it. You got to feel it all. But after a while, your body starts to come around and realizes you’re not going to give in to the trick. You know what I’m saying? You know what I want skydiving? The first time this body was doing everything inside it could to get me not to jump. The good news is I didn’t trust it. I didn’t listen to it. And I said, You know what? I’m going to feel all this, but I’m going to have a great time. And that’s why these stories that I share in the chapters from you know, live clients or my own personal experience are so helpful to understand what the heck is going on with this? Why is the comfort zone so addictive? Because your body likes comfort. It wants that comfort zone. But here’s your problem, you’re being. Trolled by your past, and that’s one of the things Joe Dispenza in his writings talks about, we don’t want to let our past inform our present or our future. Ain’t going to go away right away, but it will eventually go away and you’ll get used to it. And you know, it’s like anything. You know, I use the example a lot. When we all first started to drive, we were anxious, we were scared. You know, when I get in there, crash dad’s car, whatever, kill somebody well, because we stuck with it, hopefully while driving today. And that’s the same way to think about life, but just driving in a different way, driving your bus, you want the frontal lobes, that part of the brain, to be driving your bus, not your body. Again, like Rabbi Joel taught us, the body is our helpmate, but it should never be our master, because the body gives us signals. You know, I pick up stuff. I get spidey senses in that when I’m around certain people in that but you pay attention to it, but so that’s the good part of it. That’s the front side, but the back side, which usually comes in, is, oh, no, people are going to look at me. Something’s going to happen. None of that is true, but the body is tricking you to keep you in your damn comfort zone. And you know, what do I say about the comfort zone? That’s where our soul goes to die. So chew on this. It’s a little idea to play with. I start small with my clients. We don’t do the 10s the skydiving right away. I tell them to start practicing the ones and twos to kind of get used to stepping out of their comfort zone. And the more they do that, the bigger their comfort zone becomes. Otherwise, you’re just living in a box. And yeah, you’re you’re safe in your box until the buck box burns or explodes. Because there really is no comfort zone. It’s all in our head, but the body tricked us. Is this amazing? So chew on it. If anybody in the area is interested in working on this, reach out to me. I love helping people expand their comfort zones, and I had a lot of help when I was younger, people teaching me stuff, learning things, and it’s like, come on you guys, let’s go do this. But it’s like they’re a bunch of scared little kids because the bees gonna bite them or the dog’s gonna bite them. That’s true. That’s the past that’s gone. Let it go. All right. God bless you guys. Love you. I.