Discomfort creates more comfort! What?

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Eli discusses the concept of “discomfort leads to more comfort,” emphasizing the importance of stepping out of one’s comfort zone to grow. He shares personal anecdotes, such as learning to drive, doing karaoke, and skydiving, to illustrate how initial discomfort fades with experience. Eli highlights the role of the subconscious mind in protecting comfort and the need to challenge oneself to expand one’s comfort zone. He references Joe Dispenza’s research on the body’s comfort zone and the importance of intuition and resilience. Eli encourages listeners to embrace discomfort to achieve personal growth and authenticity.

Discomfort Leads to More Comfort: Introduction and Personal Experience

• Eli begins by greeting the audience and mentioning the pleasant summer weather in Northwest Indiana.
• He introduces the topic of Chapter 42, titled “Discomfort Leads to More Comfort,” and explains the concept of people being attached to their comfort zones.
• Eli shares his personal experience of becoming more comfortable with driving and making videos over time, emphasizing the importance of embracing discomfort to grow.
• He references Joe Dispenza’s research on the body’s preference for its comfort zone and how new experiences can be initially challenging but eventually become easier.

Examples of Overcoming Discomfort: Karaoke and Skydiving

• Eli discusses a client’s experience with karaoke, noting how initial anxiety and discomfort fade with repeated exposure.
• He shares his own experience of skydiving, highlighting how the body initially resists new experiences but eventually adapts.
• Eli emphasizes the importance of pushing through initial discomfort to expand one’s comfort zone.
• He encourages listeners to try new things and face their fears to grow and become more comfortable.

The Role of the Subconscious Mind and Social Interaction

• Eli explains how the subconscious mind can influence thoughts and behaviors, often trying to protect individuals from discomfort.
• He shares a personal anecdote about a friend who has raised his consciousness level by becoming more social and outgoing.
• Eli mentions the importance of stretching oneself and taking risks to achieve personal growth.
• He highlights the significance of social interaction and meeting new people in expanding one’s comfort zone.

The Importance of Authenticity and Practical Experience

• Eli discusses the idea that authenticity and realness require stepping out of one’s comfort zone.
• He emphasizes that practical experience is crucial for personal development, as thinking about things without taking action does not lead to change.
• Eli shares a story about a friend, Tanya, who is starting her own concierge business after many years of practice.
• He draws parallels between Tanya’s decision and his own career choices, stressing the importance of taking risks and stepping out of safe zones.

Life’s Challenges and the Need for Resilience

• Eli reflects on the inevitability of life’s challenges and the importance of resilience in facing them.
• He mentions a book he read in his early 30s, “The Road Less Traveled” by Scott Peck, which emphasizes the difficulty of life and the need to be flexible and resilient.
• Eli shares his own experiences of being knocked off balance by life’s challenges but emphasizes the importance of getting back on track.
• He encourages listeners to view challenges as opportunities for growth and to develop resilience in the face of adversity.

The Body’s Response to Discomfort and the Importance of Intuition

• Eli discusses the body’s natural response to discomfort, including the release of hormones and chemicals that can make new experiences challenging.
• He emphasizes the importance of listening to intuition and spidey senses to navigate life effectively.
• Eli shares his approach to eliminating discomfort by avoiding situations that make him feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
• He recommends Joe Dispenza’s book “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” for understanding and practicing the concept of becoming the real you.

Conclusion and Encouragement

• Eli concludes by reiterating the importance of getting uncomfortable to become more comfortable.
• He shares his personal experience and that of his clients as proof that the approach works.
• Eli encourages listeners to take risks, face their fears, and embrace uncertainty to grow and become more authentic.
• He wishes the audience a good weekend and expresses his love and blessings to them.

Hola Happy Friday. Hopefully you guys aren’t too fried from your week. Look at this lovely summer weather still here in Northwest Indiana, although that tree of life is starting to look like the back of my head getting a little thinner. So I want to, I’m going to start working on Chapter 42 this weekend, and I want to give you guys a little preview, because it’s going to seem like an oxymoron. So the title to the chapter is going to be discomfort leads to more comfort. What? What I’ve learned over the years is people are attached, addicted to their comfort zone. And, you know, life, it’s going to throw us curve balls every once in a while or a lot, you know, depending you lose a job or relationship, your health, etc, etc, and little things, you get stuck in traffic, somebody doesn’t show up. You know how it goes? What I’ve taught people and what I practice practicing for 50 years, and I learned this, to become more comfortable in the world, you have to go through the discomfort. If you want to get more comfortable, you have to surrender and be uncomfortable. And a good example I use with my clients all the time is think about driving at the beginning. Okay? Everybody, including yours truly, was anxious at the beginning. We were uncomfortable, right? Well, if you’ve been driving for a while, is that there? So everything we do, even these videos, you know, when I started doing these, I think it’s been six years now. I was uncomfortable at the beginning, and now it just boom flows out of me. What’s behind this, I believe, and this is a lot of Joe Dispenza, amazing research. The body likes its comfort zone, so when you try to do something new, unusual. I had a client in yesterday. We were talking about karaoke, and when she started doing karaoke, and I went through the same thing, sober, you feel anxious, you know, she sweats Well, guess what? As she’s done it three or four times now, the last time she did it. It was not that big of a deal. Because what I believe is happening is you’re training your body like a dog to deal with a new reality, a new experience. You know, the first time I went skydiving, this body wanted nothing to do with that. He was fighting me every inch of the way. Or when I got sober, my body was craving the dopamine from the drugs, right? But as I did, it more and more and more, guess what? It got better. What? So if you want to grow your comfort zone, you have to get uncomfortable. To do that everybody wants to get comfortable without the discomfort. And you know, get honest with yourself as you’re listening to this. Does that really work? Has that helped? I don’t believe it does. That’s why I’m always trying new things, etc, etc, difficult conversations, phone calls. We’re doing something with Comcast for our internet and our phone service for our business, and that some things I’ve never done before. You just do it, but you’re going to get the kickback from the body. And the crazy thing about it, and I’ve been sharing this a lot last few weeks in my office. If you know you want to get up there and sing karaoke, but you you start getting thoughts like they’re going to laugh at me, it’s not going to be comfortable. All those different things understand this. And this is what I learned from Joe Dispenza, the subconscious mind, which is attached to the body, can literally talk to us, because if you want to do karaoke, that’s you. So where’s those thoughts come from? Right? Your subconscious mind and it’s trying to protect you to be comfortable. But you know, one of my favorite sayings is the comfort zone is where souls go to die because there’s not a lot of stimulation there. I’ve got a dear friend who’s raised his consciousness level about 30 points this summer, and what I know is behind that is he’s starting to get out of his comfort zone a little bit by being more social, be more outgoing, meeting new people, and before that, he was like a hit little mouse in there, hiding. And so I had a hunch. I told my brother a couple of weeks ago. I said we got to do his calibration again, because I think he’s gone up and he’s gone up 30 points, but again, he was willing to stretch himself and stretch. Yourself as hard. You know, if I stretch my face right now, that would hurt at first, but after a while, you know, I’m more like Gumby. So I’m really excited about writing this new chapter, because a lot of people don’t think about this stuff, and that’s part of what Eli’s mission is, is to educate people I’m becoming more authentic and real. But how are you going to do that if you want to stay in your comfort zone? You know, all the things I’ve done in my career and in my life, traveling and, you know, learning all these techniques I have, etc, etc, I had to go out and do a do it. And I tell clients all the time, it’s in the doing you become different, not the thinking about it. That doesn’t change anything. It’s just spinning around in your head. But when you take that step, you know, I just talked to my dear friend, Tanya. She’s a nurse practitioner, and she’s my nurse practitioner, too. She’s starting a concierge business. I think that’s how you say it. Always have trouble that work. Now. She’s been practicing for 30 years. She’s really good. Always reaches out if I get a hold of her, and she does that with all her patients. But she’s leaving a practice that she doesn’t believe in, and she’s going skydiving metaphorically, to start our own practice, just like when I did it 44 years ago, when I left a safe job, great benefits, good retirement plan, and I just walked out of there. My dad thought I was crazy, which I knew I was on the right tracks. My dad was a comfort zone type of guy, because there is no comfort zone. It’s a delusion or illusion. Think about your life, everything’s, you know, going like this, and all of a sudden the heavy wave, the tsunami comes, something bad happens in that or throws you off your game. So the goal is to catch your what I don’t know what to call it, get get your focus back. Whoo, okay, I got knocked off the surfboard, but get back on it. Okay, because that’s life. You know, there’s a great book I read in my early 30s called the road less traveled by Scott Peck. I still highly recommend it. One of my clients just borrowed mine. She loved it. The first sentence in the book, the first chapter is, life is difficult. And he explained how people live in denial. They don’t think it should be difficult. Here, it’s hard, this 3d reality, but if you’re flexible, if you know you’re resilient, yeah, you can get knocked off that board once a while, like I have, I’ve got knocked off some in some heavy waves over the years. You shake your head, get your shot gone. You say, Okay, I didn’t see that coming. But you don’t quit and see that’s what the body wants you to do, because it watches feel comfortable and not feel feel that distress and everything, but that’s where the dog leash happens. You’re on a leash. Get it off. You know, I use that dog collar analogy a lot with my clients. You know, if you don’t mind getting zapped, you can run anywhere in the neighborhood as a dog or as a human, I guess. But as soon as you start feeling that vibration, what do you want to do freeze? And that’s the body’s way of protecting us. It gives us hormones and chemicals to stop us in our tracks, believe me, if I would have given into my body when I jumped out of the plane the first time, that’s a that’s a big one, I didn’t ever jumped because what was going on in here was not pleasant, but I knew I wanted to do it see the frontal lobes like Joe Dispenza says, have to be in charge of driving your life bus. If you let this drive your bus, it ain’t gonna be a fun ride. You’re not going to have a lot of scenery. It’s going to be Groundhog Day. Poor Bill Murray, right? So think about the title. Get uncomfortable, to become more comfortable, and it really works, guys, I’m living proof, and many of my clients are, I’m so proud of them, taking risks, living with that unsureness, living with everything that’s happening in here, because eventually that goes away. Just like driving. Think about your body was zapping you with cortisol and adrenaline because you were out of your comfort zone. But the more you got used to it, it went away because you trained it. The body goes along with that. Shouldn’t be the other way around where the body’s leading us. Now, I listen to my body a lot, my intuition, my spidey senses, and that I pick up stuff a lot. You know, when I don’t feel safe or comfortable around somebody, I’m on guard. I don’t like that feeling. That’s why I try to eliminate all that in my life. But don’t let it run the show. Let this run the show. And if you haven’t read the book by Joe Dispenza, he’s got four breaking the habit of being yourself. I recommend it to all my clients. They take pictures all the time when they’re in that book could change your life if you if you understand it, and more importantly, if you’re willing to practice it, you can read it, but if you don’t practice it, okay, you got more knowledge. But how’s that going to help you? It’s in a doing. You become the real you, not the avoiding or thinking about Alright, listen, enjoy your weekend. We will here in Northwest Indiana, Indiana. We got one more summer day coming tomorrow, then fall starts on Sunday, allegedly. So God bless you guys love You. You.