Is he a man or a boy ladies? Here is a tip!

Online therapy, male mentoring, feminine essence, masculine essence, Dyer, relationship dynamics, man-child, life purpose, safety, resentment, vetting questions

Eli argues that men who lack proper mentoring often fail to mature beyond boyhood, forcing their female partners to adopt an exhausting, dominant role to maintain the relationship. He asserts that a woman’s inability to relax into her feminine essence is a clear warning sign that she is with a “man-child” who cannot provide the necessary safety and leadership. Additionally, Eli provides personal updates regarding his new office location in Indiana, his upcoming online therapy practice, and his book release.

Professional Updates and Location

• Eli announces that he is ending a brief break and will begin his online therapy practice in February.
• He has been searching for a new office space and believes he has located one in Dyer, within the Northwest Indiana area.
• While waiting for his book to be released, he invites interested therapy clients to text him at 219-616-0619 to receive a Doxy link.
• He notes that he is a Bears fan, despite the team’s performance, and encourages listeners to stay warm.

The Necessity of Male Mentoring

• Eli emphasizes that he and his brother are strong advocates for male mentoring, stating that without it, a male will remain a “boy” regardless of his age.
• He warns women that unmentored partners may look and sound like men, but they are actually “man-children”.
• To vet a potential partner, he advises women to ask four specific questions: “Who are your male mentors?”, “How do you express your feminine side?”, “What is your life purpose?”, and “Have you ever been in a physical fight?”.

Indicators of a “Man-Child”

• A significant warning signal in a relationship is if a woman cannot relax into her “feminine essence” while in a man’s presence.
• Eli suggests that if a woman feels unsafe or insecure, she is unable to simply “be,” which is the core desire of the feminine side.
• He argues that if a woman must constantly plan, coax, or control the relationship—metaphorically described as “strapping on a penis”—she is likely dating a boy.

The Impact of Relationship Dynamics

• When a woman is forced to maintain a masculine essence by telling her partner what to do or reminding him of tasks, she often becomes resentful and sour.
• Eli explains that a man taking control does not mean taking over dominantly, but rather leading in a way that allows his partner to feel safe enough to drop her masculine shield.
• He shares an example of a family member who divorced because maintaining constant control became exhausting, noting that women wear down when they cannot spend enough time in their feminine side.

Hola! Happy Monday! I’ve been on a little break doing videos. I’ve been a little busy. I’m going to be starting my online therapy practice in February. And then I’ve been out there hunting for a new office. I think I’ve found one if you’re in the Northwest Indiana area. It’s going to be in Dyer, allegedly. And I’ve been waiting for the book to come out and I’ve been enjoying hibernating. But anyway, I wanted to get a topic out there today. My brother and I are really big into male mentoring. If a man isn’t properly mentored, he’s going to stay a boy. And that’s just the facts of life, especially for you ladies. They look like men, they sound like men, but you’re dealing with a man-child. And there’s certain characteristics I tell a woman to ask a man when she’s dating him before she settles in. Who are your male mentors? How do you express your feminine side? What is your life purpose? The deeper purpose? And have you ever been in a physical fight? Now that one sounds a little weird, but there’s something behind that. I don’t want to get into that right now. But here’s another signal for you ladies, like a warning carpet, not a warning sign, a warning carpet. If a woman is with a man in a man’s presence and she cannot relax into her feminine essence, there’s a good chance you got a boy. So if the woman doesn’t feel safe, doesn’t feel secure enough to go into her feminine essence, because the feminine side of us, including mine, but especially women, she just wants to be. She doesn’t want to have to plan, coax, control. She just wants to be and look pretty. And Wendy loves looking pretty. She loves this shirt we wore today. But I’d say if a woman is in a relationship with a man and she has to keep strapping on her penis, you probably got a boy. A woman shouldn’t have to be wearing a penis. Now, every woman has a masculine essence, like every man has a feminine essence. But if you’re strapping that thing on all the time, telling them what to do, reminding them of things, drive this way, you know, basically being in control, she’s not going to be able to be in her feminine essence very often, and she’s going to start to get sour and very resentful. And then the relationship starts to explode. Basically, you’re living with two men, because she’s strapped on a penis, and he’s got one. And I’ve been working with three ladies on this recently, and this is where this idea popped up. And I tease them, I say, you got your penis off? But these women, one’s married, the other two aren’t, and they’re out there dating, you know, with boys. Because when a man is in control, that doesn’t mean take over, but he takes over in ways that makes her feel safe. So she can let go of her masculine side, her penis side, and she can be just feminine, and just be and enjoy things, not have to worry about things, take charge, any of that. Now, women do want to do that sometimes, because they have a masculine essence, you know, like maybe getting the kids off to school, or doing something at work in that. But a woman should spend more time in her feminine side than her masculine side, because it wears her down. And I’ve seen this. I got a family member that got a divorce about a year or so ago. She got so tired of wearing a penis, she could never relax. She was always on. And it was exhausting. Now, this person’s a single mom. And she said, at least I know I’m in charge. I don’t have to worry about what he’s doing. So pay attention to this, ladies. If you’ve got to keep your masculine side up too much, good chance you’ve got a boy, not a man, because he hasn’t been properly mentored into manhood. You don’t have to remind him of stuff. Tell him to do this. Coax him. He should know. Right? But if you’re always reminding him of different things, you’re going to get exhausted, you’re going to get resentful, and you’re not going to like it. So I just wanted to put this out there today, because it’s been bugging me for about 10 days, and I’ve only had some time today and some energy to do a quick little talk. So anybody listening, they’re interested in doing online therapy, if you’re not local, just message me. My cell phone number is 219-616-0619. And you can text me and tell me, you know, who you are, you’re interested. And then I can send you the Doxy link so we can talk about it and do it. And book is coming any minute now, they keep telling me, so I’m just waiting. All right. Go Bears, even though they’re not going anywhere this year, besides yesterday. And stay warm. It’s a little cold out there. Okay. Love you. God bless you.