The Eli Effect Podcast #15

Eli Effect, soul formula, harnessing qualities, emotional healing, transmuting rage, setting boundaries, core issues, sobriety, breathwork, spirit attachments

In this talk, Eli discusses how individuals can identify and harness their inner qualities and past experiences to fulfill their true soul purpose. He emphasizes the necessity of emotional healing to transmute negative traits like stubbornness and rage into positive tools for growth and boundary-setting. Finally, Eli highlights the importance of addressing core emotional issues and external energetic blockages, such as spirit attachments, to free up personal energy and remain on one’s life path.

Harnessing and Flipping Personal Qualities

• Eli emphasizes the need to put a “harness” on extreme personal traits—such as living on the edge or being overly helpful—so they work for personal growth rather than self-destruction.
• Uncontrolled helpfulness led to burnout and anger from lack of gratitude, which Eli solved by harnessing his desire to help through a professional counseling practice.
• Negative qualities can be flipped into positive assets; for example, Eli’s stubbornness was redirected from destructive behavior to earning a college degree and maintaining 38 years of sobriety.
• Personal qualities should act like a unified group or team, all directing their energy toward a common goal rather than pulling in different directions.

Transmuting Past Emotions and Healing

• Healing work, particularly methods like breathwork and psychodrama, is essential for transmuting heavy emotions like rage into healthy anger.
• Healthy anger allows individuals to set firm boundaries and comfortably say “no” to people taking advantage of them.
• Extreme emotional reactions often stem from buried past emotions and childhood experiences that sit in the emotional body.
• Comfort zones can also be flipped; shifting away from a need for constant comfort can stimulate personal growth and prevent boredom.

Uncovering Soul Formulations from Childhood

• Eli advises reflecting on early childhood attributes (from birth to age 10), such as curiosity or adventurousness, to discover foundational soul traits.
• These early characteristics—like a child continually asking questions—reveal inherent qualities that can be creatively applied to one’s life purpose.
• Gathering insights from parents or siblings can help identify core traits that were present early in life.

Addressing Core Issues and Energy Leakage

• Counseling and online therapy can help resolve core emotional issues that drain vital energy.
• Treating core issues is like treating an underlying condition rather than just the symptom (e.g., addressing an addiction before tackling deeper issues).
• Being controlled by past traumas causes energy to leak, leaving less capacity to pursue personal goals and soul purpose.

Clearing Spirit Attachments

• Disembodied spirits that fail to cross over can attach to individuals with lower vibrations, causing them to deviate from their path.
• These attachments can drastically derail a person’s life for decades if left unaddressed.
• Identifying and clearing spirit attachments is necessary to ensure one’s energy remains uncompromised when striving to fulfill a soul formula.

Hola! The Eli Effect book is still available. Get it out there. I got somebody that’s recommending it to everybody. So, and also the podcast that I’m doing. I was just talking to an old client of mine. She lives out west and I was telling her about it. She’s got a new significant other that he and I have had a similar journey. He’s just 30 years younger. I said, tell him to read it because it’ll make total sense for what his journey has been with recovery in that. So, I’m doing the next chapter. It’s going to talk about how do we identify our soul formulas to be able to manifest it, to become it. Just like with DNA, you know, they do those DNA studies to learn different things about, you know, why your eyes are blue and different things like that. Well, the DNA we’ve talked about before is your your soul DNA that’s in there and you got to put everything together. My journey taught me something. There were many characteristics and qualities I had to harness to control. For instance, I was, um, I was a little out of control with things. Uh, I would like to go to my edge a lot, do silly things, stupid things. I mean, I’ve walked up bridges on the top, just walking like I’m walking like that. Um, ran red lights for fun. Um, I’ve talked about the sledding blindfolded. Well, I had to harness that because that stuff was going to get me in trouble eventually or kill me in that. So what we have to do is put a harness on these qualities so they’re not like kicking like horses and ruining your life. So my, whatever that quality is, experiential things, trying new things, living on my edge, living on my edge, that stuff still works for me, but I’m doing it in healthier, saner ways, but that’s still in me. I still like living on my edge and doing, you know, different things for, uh, for myself that most people wouldn’t even think about. So when you think about the harnessing part, come up with a quality and how can I use that for my, my growth, get it to work for you, not against you. you know when I was younger I loved helping people maybe I was a people pleaser who knows I used to love helping people and I had to grow and learn something people will use you they will take advantage of you in every way possible and they’ll just suck you dry and so what I had to do is control my helping part okay or harness it I still like helping people but I found a different way to do it my practice I love helping people but I’m able to help people I’m able to make a living for it instead of going out there and helping everybody else at my expense because that led me to be a lot of have a lot of anger because of the lack of gratitude that I didn’t always see so when you identify your qualities and characteristics think of it like a group of people that have a common goal they’re all working together you know whether it’s maybe the senate although who knows what they’re doing anymore or a church group of people or a bunch of people that want to fix something like from a tornado you know come together and fix the neighborhood we just had that here in northwest Indiana we had this thing my brother calls the event where we had some tornadoes come through and some horrible hurricane winds and that and it was so wonderful to see the group of people coming together to clear up the neighborhoods so that’s kind of what you want to do with your qualities you don’t want them this one going this way that way that way down here they’re all going toward the same goal you’re negative qualities can become beneficial if you learn how to flip it so for instance my stubbornness got me in trouble a lot of times i want to give in i want to surrender as i flipped it my stubbornness got me through college has kept me sober for 38 years okay so i found the other side to it the negative side was you know i was crazy stubborn wouldn’t give in and things like that thinking i was cool now i use it for something more positive your qualities are like puzzle pieces fitting perfectly together and i know what i’m explaining here is a little tricky if you’re new to it but if you spend some time or you know get a hold of me we can talk about this you got this wonderful puzzle but you have to put everything together to get the working picture meaning your soul purpose healing is so critical for the transmutation of these qualities though if we don’t do the healing work and i know i go on about this all the time it’s really hard to transmute them i’m living proof of that it’s amazing what healing work can do give you an example my rage from all the work i did especially the breath work and the cycle drama turned into healthy anger and the healthy anger enabled me to set healthier boundaries part of my rage besides from my childhood you know i wanted to kick my dad’s butt in some other stuff and stuff i put up with my mom but a lot of it as i got older was i didn’t have good boundaries and people were using me taking advantage of me calling me because they knew i liked helping people okay and it just got crazier so once i was able to transmute that meaning release a lot of the rage from my past i was able to use my anger to better set boundaries and use the n-word no i’m not going to do that that’s why one of the chapters in the book i’ve reached with chapters uh but i i think the title is why is it so hard to use the n-word and i’m not talking about that other end where i’m talking about no okay for me the extreme qualities like rage are usually fueled by your buried emotions from your past that you don’t even know it’s in your emotional body until you end up on a date line episode it’s like oh my god how’d i get here well it’s gonna come out so look at from the age of well from birth to the age of 10 reflect on what qualities or attributes were you able to see in yourself back then and later at the next podcast i’m going to share some of those ideas with you guys but for now reflect on what are the qualities or attributes that were there like my helpful part was there my curiosity part was there my going to my edge part was there it was always there i just had to find a way to use it for my journey so think about that and maybe if you’ve got siblings or talk to your parents you know what were you like you know some kids like my great niece she likes to ask questions actually like her mother my niece bridgette okay always asking questions uncle tom what about this what about that that curiosity was always in there so take a look at and think about what qualities were there and then learn to use them in a very creative way for your purpose okay like i used to like comfort okay that was one of my favorite qualities i didn’t like to get out of my comfort zone i’ve totally flipped that today i i’m not going to say i like discomfort but it stimulates me i get bored when everything’s comfortable the same old same old going on so i like to go out of my comfort zone so that’s flipping it to a more creative way we also you guys probably know this we offer counseling and i i do stuff online my brother doesn’t in our office but if you want to do stuff online to help you address your core issues what’s fueling all the stuff that’s going on the headache the brain tumor okay we got to treat the headache first it’s kind of like an addiction you got to get the addiction taken care of first before you can get in there and deal with the other stuff the core issues but the more you free up that energy the more energy you’ll have for your own personal journey if you’re being controlled by your past a lot of your energy is being wasted seeping up it’s like a leak when you’re on your journey and you’re not living in the past you’re going to have more energy to do what you want to do the last thing i want to leave you guys with and we i have an i did a video on sunday we we also check for spirit attachments okay these are disembodied spirits it’s not the devil or things like that these are just disembodied spirits who have passed and who didn’t cross over to the other side so they get stuck here where are they they’re here in this reality and if your vibration is low or other things going on in your life they can move in with you and then trying to discover your path is going to be nearly impossible because they’re going to get you to deviate off of it because they’re using your body to live their life even though the life is over so i know a lot of people out there in the mental health field aren’t into this stuff but tim and i are actually he had a client which i i did the video on sunday so a young lady that once the spirit attachment came in her life went 180 totally blew it up and she’s still been suffering with that 30 years later and never nobody ever asked her you know do you think you got a spirit attachment so if you truly want to do your soul’s purpose this is crazy i know you want to make sure you got nobody in there and don’t think it’s rare it’s not my numbers are pretty high for people we checked on three people a couple of days ago tim and i and two of the three had at least one so 67 percent out of three people so if you have a spirit attachment they will take you off your path or make it that much harder to live it so that’s just something we offer we help people with especially when they’re coming in live all right so i’ll be back soon to talk about the um qualities and finding the the front side to this stuff but when you read this chapter identifying your soul formula there’s some good ideas in there but i just like fleshing it out so you guys get a better understanding all right love you god bless you see you soon